Both, I say.
The virus must have started somewhere. To just insinuate an SP as being the perpretator and you being the "victim" is irresponsible. Facts must be presented and we know even then it is difficult to say when the virus is "hibernating" for 3 months or so. Remember, she is also a "victim".
Regardless, we all have choices and when we make a decision to partake in "risky" activities we should also accept the responsibilties.
Reminds me when Magic Johnson was diagnosed with hiv several years ago. The media portarayed him as a "victim". Gimme a break! The guy was known to have slept with hundreds of women and doing what I don't know.
It's time to take responsibility and stop spreading the virus.
The buck stops here.