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    Does your boyfriend know what you're doing?

    Obviously a question for SPs but does your significant other know what you do? Is he ok with it? I know someone that started in this biz a few years ago to make $$$$ to help bail out her boyfriend. She helped him out and saved his ass all along knowing what she did. Now they are still together and she still fucks around even though he doesn't need the money anymore.

    Do you think he turns a blind eye because of what she did for him? If I was her boyfriend it would drive me crazy knowing she's fucking other guys.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lost-In-Japan View Post
    Dude, your first two lines, yes, but the last?
    I agree.
    While I try not to criticize how others choose to live their lives there is no way a lady I'm in a commited relationship is fucking other dudes for money or any other reason.
    And it's because I'm old fashioned not insecure.
    Now I know a lot of people will jump in and say it is about her right to do what she likes and he doesn't own her and they are right. No one owns anyone or should be able to tell the other how to run their life. On the other hand realtionships are about respect and it should go both ways in that if the lady expects the guy to be honest and faithful so she should she.
    And it goes both ways with regards to the jealousy/insecurity angle.
    About 10 years ago I had an online friend on Canbest. We chatted and even meet for drinks once in a while. Back then he dated and then lived with a retired SP who eventually re-entered the biz. When they were dating she had just quit the biz to go back to school. He told me she was "bat shit crazy" jealous. She'd go nuts if he talked to his ex about his kids and Lord help him if they ran into a pretty co-worker on the street and he said hello. One day she freaks on him because he met his brother for a drink in a strip bar. Anyway, one thing leads to another and after a couple of years she announces she is moving out and going back to the biz but she still wants to remain GF and BF. He tries to explain to her that they can still date but if she thinks he's going to remain exclusive to her while she fucks any guy with $200 bucks in his pocket she's nuts. She tried to tell him that those guys mean nothing to her, its just sex nothing more. He tells her that he could say the same thing about some lady he picks up at happy hour and takes home to bang. She can't see the similiartiy and throws a knife at him. He ends up having to get a restraining order against her before she finally moves away.
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    I wouldn't want my g/f to be a provider but mostly because I'd be worried about her meeting up with total strangers. I don't think I would be keen on her fucking a bunch of guys each week either, but I might be ok with it if she enjoyed it and I was still getting my share!. I don't think I can answer that honestly, never having been on the situation
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    Honestly, I don't think this is an insecurity issue.

    There are some guys that just find it super hot that their gal is that desirable. "Guys are paying to fuck my beautiful gf!"

    "Eat your hearts out, guys, at night, she's in bed WITH ME!" This is how they think!

    If a guy doesn't think like that, it doesn't make him insecure!

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    I wouldn't compare escorting and the bf fucking a girl he picks up at a bar...He is doing it for his pleasure and that is outright cheating and betrayal. Escorting is a job its not "fucking around" and should never be considered as cheating. BadgerJohn is on the money, does your gf or wife know that you're "fucking around" and paying for it?

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    I am not married and not dating right now. When I had a SO I did not cheat on her and I was not in this hobby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SexyMelina View Post


    Which one

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    Amen.

    But in all seriousness...

    I've known sex-workers who keep their work a secret from their partners, and I've known sex-workers who are completely honest with their partners. People make all kinds of choices, and I think people do what they think is best at the time.

    Personally, I've always been upfront. But then again, I have always pursued polyamorous/non-monogamous relationship formats.

    Ps: I'd like to call attention to the title of this thread..."Does your boyfriend know what you're doing?" - I know sex-workers who have men as clients, but date women in their private lives. I know sex-workers who are married. I know sex-workers who are polyamorous. I know sex-workers who are bisexual. Let's broaden the question from "boyfriend" to any of the following: wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, lover, significant other, partner, partners, etc.
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    Amen sista!
    I've always been all about full disclosure with any guy I decide to date (No judgement to those who aren't like minded)... Many can't deal with it, but some can... Just makes the pickins a bit slimmer. I don't mind though, would rather be with someone I'm compatible with anyways

    Quote Originally Posted by Holly Taylor View Post
    Amen.

    But in all seriousness...

    I've known sex-workers who keep their work a secret from their partners, and I've known sex-workers who are completely honest with their partners. People make all kinds of choices, and I think people do what they think is best at the time.

    Personally, I've always been upfront. But then again, I have always pursued polyamorous/non-monogamous relationship formats.

    Ps: I'd like to call attention to the title of this thread..."Does your boyfriend know what you're doing?" - I know sex-workers who have men as clients, but date women in their private lives. I know sex-workers who are married. I know sex-workers who are polyamorous. I know sex-workers who are bisexual. Let's broaden the question from "boyfriend" to any of the following: wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, lover, significant other, partner, partners, etc.
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    That's very true... I usually had lovers more than committed relationships too lol

    Quote Originally Posted by Miss Melody View Post
    +1 I have a full disclosure policy out of respect to my partner. I hadn't found really many who have a problem with it, but then I hadn't been dating them seriously.
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    I did have a boyfriend but he passed away a year ago...and he did know and he was fine with it, he used to drive me to outcalls and back and forth to incalls in downtown...He even got clients for me lol, but i never paid him anything...He was an awesome guy, its so true that the good die young

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    Quote Originally Posted by chevy529 View Post
    And yet here you are? On PERB? Do I take it that you are single then? Here for the entertainment value?

    Or so old fashioned that you can fuck around but By GOD! NO wife of mine will!!!!

    If that is the way of it, I know you are not alone in your thinking.

    Sadly, pretty common actually.
    That's kind of a rude thing to assume about someone you don't even know.
    FYI, I AM single. I've been divorced for 10 years now and got into this hobby because I was (and still am) the single Dad to a young daughter. I did not have time for the dating game.
    I never cheated on my ex-wife and certainly would not be in this hobby, which BTW I have retired from for other reasons, if I was in a commited relationship.
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    does my SO know?

    yes

    is he ok with it?

    yes, he says "you can't put a fence around a public park, everyone has a right to play there" and the other wicked quote from him " you never miss a slice from a cut loaf".....

    in other words i wasn't promised to him as a virgin or something....

    ever since i came out of the closet, i have been much happier and for me, if a guy doesn't want to be with me simply because i am a sex worker, then he is not the right guy for me. people like that probable have issues with inter racial couples as well....or gay marriage.....

    i mean, who wouldn't want to have their dick sucked by a professional every morning?

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    I don't see how it should affect a relationship if someone actually desires to have the others heart. I mean let's face it, there are much worse things that could happen in a relationship beyond telling someone your profession handles numerous clients by hand, mouth, and hips.

    Like having someone you've cared deeply for ask you out at your mothers wake only to break up with you two weeks later by her brother while she's busy on the dance floor. Does wonders for a 20 year old hahaha. It was bullshit, but honesty brings what's needed.

    Events that change your outlook on relationships as such, tend to carry over to your ideal match. Someone who's upfront, unashamed of what they do and know they can trust the person is much more desirable in my mind but to each their own. That's the problem, people believing since they're in a relationship the other is their property. Hell this trade is the oldest profession, it takes skill to grow with it and not grow into a spoiled greed fueled lust. Would you stay with someone who goes to Alberta and works on the rigs for 6 months? Some would, some wouldn't, it's knowing what you have and not focusing on what the job entails. All I can say is I hope to somehow become acquainted with one of the bright driven ladies that are posting in here for example outside the work environment because they have the intellectual, forthright, sexually driven nature about themselves I crave.

    And besides, if you can't handle cooking in the kitchen, you'll be in line waiting to pay for your meal.

    Oh, and hi Perb. Soon to be a misbehavior

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    Is it any of our business? Nope. I don't ask, and they don't tell...

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