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Has anyone quit pooning?

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you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
 
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I poon because i can't get it for free. Probably my personality. Been told many times im good looking and i know i am. Just graduated university so i missed out on the easiest time of my life to get laid too.
 

pilpay

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you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
I'm pretty sure one doesn't cause the other, maybe it's the excuse you use to justify not working on improving your self in those aspects
 

Sharky66

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this stupid habit is ruining my life

whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
You have a sex addiction. You call it a "habit". It is "ruining" your life. See the SAA website saavancouver.org. Get some therapy. Sex addiction is real and it is destructive. It is harder to resolve than alcoholism or drug addiction. If you deal with it now, you can catch it early. That is a very very good thing. This addiction has ruined many lives and relationships. Patrick Carnes (THE authority on SA) says (among many things), that SA is also an intimacy disorder. See his book "Facing the Shadows".

I am a sex addict -- clearly not as successful as I would like because I frequent this forum and erslist. I am working on it but it is hard, and I have relapses. I wish you the best of luck.

PS. Sorry to all for being a downer.
 
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@ Ms Sarah: Its had the complete opposite effect for me. Actually decreased my confidence like crazy knowing i have to pay a woman to touch me

Sharky66: I dont know if im a sex addict. I remember when i had a gf i used to want to make out and stuff but i'd get bored easily. Even when i meet girls, i never push for sex which i probably should
 

agentman

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you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
You can start shifting your energy/money to the dating circuit i guess. Maybe its not the habit that's causing your distress, maybe its some other changes in your lifestyle. For myself this hobby been a positive experience.:)
 

Sharky66

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Sharky66: I dont know if im a sex addict. I remember when i had a gf i used to want to make out and stuff but i'd get bored easily. Even when i meet girls, i never push for sex which i probably should
Before labelling yourself as a Sex Addict and then going in for treatment, I’d try to work it out yourself first.

No offense to Sharky66 or others seeking “treatment”, but you’ll never beat any disorder or addiction by listening to someone else for anything other than very general advice. You have to do it yourself or else you are just following someone else’s rules. Never see a shrink of any kind unless they’ve locked you up and you have no choice. Those quacks will make you nuts!

The question is, can you think for yourself or not?
Sex addiction is not simply "I need sex and I will go and get it." It is not the need for sex. It is the need to fill a void and improperly using sex for that reason, and though it does not fulfill you, you will do it again and again anyway, with the slightest justification. There is much more to it than that though, and it is certainly not the need for sex for itself. Ever feel unfulfilled afterwards? Ever feel dismay or regret afterwards? If not afterwards and maybe not specifically regarding a session with an SP, but generally? Seems like you have, given your remarks in your original post. By no means am I an expert or a know-it-all, just trying to give you a different viewpoint.

@ Lost:
It is not just a label. It is real. And "working it out for yourself" never works. It is that very isolation that works to perpetuate the addiction. And your words (and really, no offence is intended towards you), your advice to the OP is completely and utterly wrong and shows a lack of understanding of addictive behaviour. I truly mean no offence by that. It is a commonly-held view -- "do it for yourself, think for yourself," etc., and I don't blame you for thinking that. Thinking for oneself when the thinking is impaired, however, goes nowhere.

Sex addiction is not about a lack of confidence either. It has nothing to do with it.

Some people quit smoking on their own, or quit drinking, or quit seeing SPs. Not everyone who does this is an addict. Some people are though.

Another sign of addiction is that you spend money that you don't have, or that was meant for other things, or your family goes without because of your spending. Kinda like gambling. We have all heard how gambling destroys families.

It seems that the OP is young-ish. This might be a good time, at the very least, to consider the possibility of addiction. Just saying. There should be no shame in this. The real shame is to leave it unchecked until real damage is done.

I did not mean to "label" the OP as a sex addict. I did say to him "you have a sex addiction." Perhaps that was not fair, but he did say that the "habit" was "ruining his life". Those were strong words. And addictions do ruin lives if not addressed. We all know that, don't we?
 
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@ Japan and Sharky: thanks for the replies. I agree with you Japan, most people are weak minded and grab for other peoples self assurance when they are feeling doubts and it looks like thats what I was doing even posting here. I've broken worst habits in the past and this is nothing compared to them (quit smoking with no withdrawals). Looks like its just a matter of growing a pair of nuts. Thanks man.
 

blueberrymuffin

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you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
Why would you quit?

Are you an introverted man?

I've been awkward around women plenty of times. :)

I'm still an introvert but I'm always nice to women. If I want sex, I strictly go to escorts.

I really see nothing wrong in that.

I noticed more recently, not giving a fuck about approaching women, I get more attention then ever before from them. Pretty damn weird how that works. If you don't want them, they want you.
 

sevenofnine

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Almost quit,
Like a guy a while back said he is done but made a friend of a lady in this, that is the only reason why he stays.
Like me I guess, Im done, I see a women from time to time because were friends.

When I started this women were magical mysterious and magical.
They lost there magic I don't really know how

But I think because I made a friend of an sp to be honest.
The first few years she hardly talked I did all the talking,
Then she started talking she told me her side of things,
She kept asking me if its all right, if I wanted to hear this.
She was doing me a big favor
The more she told me about her side of things, the more the magic died.

I honestly think I could walk away and never pay for another women even the sp that I see, to be honest.

There is an ugly side to this that no one wants to talk about.
Its kind of like putting a dress and lipstick on a pig. Or the eight hundred pound gorilla in the room that everyone pretends isn't there.

Sex is magical and wonderful,
But you know what is just as important is how you go about it.

Paying for sex so many guys go on and on about it, there so proud of themselfs,
they just banged a hooker.
And I was there I wrote myself a lot of reviews.

But you know the reality is the honest truth
This lifestyle is kind of sad.
 

LalaniElectrica

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Some things for you to consider is taking up a hobby, something you've always wanted to do but never took the time. Especially if it's something you like, music, painting, carpentry, etc. In the meantime, satisfy yourself and work on self-pleasure as much as needed. Obviously you have some primal urges at this time in your life, completely natural, but it will help you not walking around with a loaded gun. Your hobbies will keep you as occupied as they can, and hopefully you may find a person or 2 to date, the best thing is stay open initially, until you know it's the right person for the long term, in the meantime you are dating and when you are perhaps looking for something a little spicier than your everyday, or in between girlfriends, call your fave sp, but reserve that for special times so it remains a treat, or else you will only have that connection to validate you instead of pursuing your own destiny and making a potential long term life commitment, or even just bettering yourself, which will always open up new opportunities! :) Good luck!
 

Flanders

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Jun 16, 2011
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you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
you forgot the part about living with your sister and spending your moms money after putting her in a home. How about posting a pic of your abs, Toberloney? You got the "cunt" part right... Go to a support group and quit coming back here. Cured.
 

blazejowski

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you forgot the part about living with your sister and spending your moms money after putting her in a home. How about posting a pic of your abs, Toberloney? You got the "cunt" part right... Go to a support group and quit coming back here. Cured.
He's almost as bad as Silky for having the same transparent personas....
 

Sharky66

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I like to Fuck and yep I am a Sex Addict, I sort of got it under control a bit better these days. I used to go to Money Mart for a payday loan just to keep pooning and I even managed to shut it down for awhile. Now that I'm older I no longer give a fuck its something I enjoy and sooner or later ol Throbber will stay down for the count anyhow, till then I'm screwin everything I can get my hands on, I Love my Addiction!
At least you are keepin' it real and calling it the way it is. More power to you!
 

sevenofnine

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wow, you have kind of a messed up view of things :confused:

My opinion, you make a big error in judgment if you project your feelings and perceptions on some one else.

This hobby was in a sense never for me. Just my value system.
My father was a rapist, I have kind of old school family value type system, where a man's charecter is everything he has nothing else.
I have guilt issues about doing this, paying a women for sex. Self esteem issues, because well Im paying a women to be with me.

Just the way I feel, this hobby, is not the best way to enjoy or explore your sexuality.
Does a man any kind of a man really need to pay anyone to be with him.

Life isn't perfect, I am not perfect, I was a pooner for ten years still am, wouldn't be if I didn't meet lady and her and me became friends.
She is my only hold to this hobby,
I enjoy seeing her, we talk about vacation together, we talk about growing old together.

If I am proud or happy about anything in this hobby its not the fact that I banged a hooker.
Whooped de do. Big fucking deal, I banged a hooker.

The only thing Im happy about and enjoy is the ladies I met and became regulars with became my friends.
I was never some creep they just fucked and there glad he is gone.
They ended up asking me, to stay and share there life.

It tells me I did something right in my life beside coming up with the three hundred bucks to pay her.
 
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