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    Has anyone quit pooning?

    you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

    this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

    whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist

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    Escorts are my only option to get sex so i'd say pooner but might be general sex addict, not sure

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    I poon because i can't get it for free. Probably my personality. Been told many times im good looking and i know i am. Just graduated university so i missed out on the easiest time of my life to get laid too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BonerHardBiceps View Post
    you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

    this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

    whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
    I'm pretty sure one doesn't cause the other, maybe it's the excuse you use to justify not working on improving your self in those aspects

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    Pretty sure its self confidence now that i think about it. Any tips to gain it back?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BonerHardBiceps View Post
    this stupid habit is ruining my life

    whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
    You have a sex addiction. You call it a "habit". It is "ruining" your life. See the SAA website saavancouver.org. Get some therapy. Sex addiction is real and it is destructive. It is harder to resolve than alcoholism or drug addiction. If you deal with it now, you can catch it early. That is a very very good thing. This addiction has ruined many lives and relationships. Patrick Carnes (THE authority on SA) says (among many things), that SA is also an intimacy disorder. See his book "Facing the Shadows".

    I am a sex addict -- clearly not as successful as I would like because I frequent this forum and erslist. I am working on it but it is hard, and I have relapses. I wish you the best of luck.

    PS. Sorry to all for being a downer.

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    @ Ms Sarah: Its had the complete opposite effect for me. Actually decreased my confidence like crazy knowing i have to pay a woman to touch me

    Sharky66: I dont know if im a sex addict. I remember when i had a gf i used to want to make out and stuff but i'd get bored easily. Even when i meet girls, i never push for sex which i probably should

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    Quote Originally Posted by BonerHardBiceps View Post
    you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

    this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

    whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
    You can start shifting your energy/money to the dating circuit i guess. Maybe its not the habit that's causing your distress, maybe its some other changes in your lifestyle. For myself this hobby been a positive experience.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BonerHardBiceps View Post

    Sharky66: I dont know if im a sex addict. I remember when i had a gf i used to want to make out and stuff but i'd get bored easily. Even when i meet girls, i never push for sex which i probably should
    Quote Originally Posted by Lost-In-Japan View Post
    Before labelling yourself as a Sex Addict and then going in for treatment, I’d try to work it out yourself first.

    No offense to Sharky66 or others seeking “treatment”, but you’ll never beat any disorder or addiction by listening to someone else for anything other than very general advice. You have to do it yourself or else you are just following someone else’s rules. Never see a shrink of any kind unless they’ve locked you up and you have no choice. Those quacks will make you nuts!

    The question is, can you think for yourself or not?
    Sex addiction is not simply "I need sex and I will go and get it." It is not the need for sex. It is the need to fill a void and improperly using sex for that reason, and though it does not fulfill you, you will do it again and again anyway, with the slightest justification. There is much more to it than that though, and it is certainly not the need for sex for itself. Ever feel unfulfilled afterwards? Ever feel dismay or regret afterwards? If not afterwards and maybe not specifically regarding a session with an SP, but generally? Seems like you have, given your remarks in your original post. By no means am I an expert or a know-it-all, just trying to give you a different viewpoint.

    @ Lost:
    It is not just a label. It is real. And "working it out for yourself" never works. It is that very isolation that works to perpetuate the addiction. And your words (and really, no offence is intended towards you), your advice to the OP is completely and utterly wrong and shows a lack of understanding of addictive behaviour. I truly mean no offence by that. It is a commonly-held view -- "do it for yourself, think for yourself," etc., and I don't blame you for thinking that. Thinking for oneself when the thinking is impaired, however, goes nowhere.

    Sex addiction is not about a lack of confidence either. It has nothing to do with it.

    Some people quit smoking on their own, or quit drinking, or quit seeing SPs. Not everyone who does this is an addict. Some people are though.

    Another sign of addiction is that you spend money that you don't have, or that was meant for other things, or your family goes without because of your spending. Kinda like gambling. We have all heard how gambling destroys families.

    It seems that the OP is young-ish. This might be a good time, at the very least, to consider the possibility of addiction. Just saying. There should be no shame in this. The real shame is to leave it unchecked until real damage is done.

    I did not mean to "label" the OP as a sex addict. I did say to him "you have a sex addiction." Perhaps that was not fair, but he did say that the "habit" was "ruining his life". Those were strong words. And addictions do ruin lives if not addressed. We all know that, don't we?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BonerHardBiceps View Post
    Sharky66: I dont know if im a sex addict.
    my name is cowboy... i'm a sex addict

    c'mon people, who do we think we're fooling here?

    let's get real
    believe nothing of what you hear, and only half of what you actually see - question EVERYTHING...

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    @ Japan and Sharky: thanks for the replies. I agree with you Japan, most people are weak minded and grab for other peoples self assurance when they are feeling doubts and it looks like thats what I was doing even posting here. I've broken worst habits in the past and this is nothing compared to them (quit smoking with no withdrawals). Looks like its just a matter of growing a pair of nuts. Thanks man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BonerHardBiceps View Post
    you'd probably wouldnt be on this site but just curious

    this stupid habit is ruining my life, making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive

    whats the best way to quit? cold turkey? i cant stop going on erslist
    Why would you quit?

    Are you an introverted man?

    I've been awkward around women plenty of times.

    I'm still an introvert but I'm always nice to women. If I want sex, I strictly go to escorts.

    I really see nothing wrong in that.

    I noticed more recently, not giving a fuck about approaching women, I get more attention then ever before from them. Pretty damn weird how that works. If you don't want them, they want you.

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    Almost quit,
    Like a guy a while back said he is done but made a friend of a lady in this, that is the only reason why he stays.
    Like me I guess, Im done, I see a women from time to time because were friends.

    When I started this women were magical mysterious and magical.
    They lost there magic I don't really know how

    But I think because I made a friend of an sp to be honest.
    The first few years she hardly talked I did all the talking,
    Then she started talking she told me her side of things,
    She kept asking me if its all right, if I wanted to hear this.
    She was doing me a big favor
    The more she told me about her side of things, the more the magic died.

    I honestly think I could walk away and never pay for another women even the sp that I see, to be honest.

    There is an ugly side to this that no one wants to talk about.
    Its kind of like putting a dress and lipstick on a pig. Or the eight hundred pound gorilla in the room that everyone pretends isn't there.

    Sex is magical and wonderful,
    But you know what is just as important is how you go about it.

    Paying for sex so many guys go on and on about it, there so proud of themselfs,
    they just banged a hooker.
    And I was there I wrote myself a lot of reviews.

    But you know the reality is the honest truth
    This lifestyle is kind of sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BonerHardBiceps View Post
    making me an awkward cunt in real life and keeping me from being attractive
    I'm afraid there is no cure for that if you feel that way. You are going to be the same person irrespective of whether you see SPs or not.

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    Some things for you to consider is taking up a hobby, something you've always wanted to do but never took the time. Especially if it's something you like, music, painting, carpentry, etc. In the meantime, satisfy yourself and work on self-pleasure as much as needed. Obviously you have some primal urges at this time in your life, completely natural, but it will help you not walking around with a loaded gun. Your hobbies will keep you as occupied as they can, and hopefully you may find a person or 2 to date, the best thing is stay open initially, until you know it's the right person for the long term, in the meantime you are dating and when you are perhaps looking for something a little spicier than your everyday, or in between girlfriends, call your fave sp, but reserve that for special times so it remains a treat, or else you will only have that connection to validate you instead of pursuing your own destiny and making a potential long term life commitment, or even just bettering yourself, which will always open up new opportunities! Good luck!

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