Man Mountain

Asking for "more info" is like pulling teeth

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Quote Originally Posted by Man Mountain View Post
Just a note for some of the ladies out there advertising on sites like leolist and backpage: please work with us

Under the new laws, it's now illegal for us to ask you specific questions in regards to your rates and the nature of the services that you offer. And the advertising venues, for the most part, are restricting what information you can post in your ads. I've seen a number of ads now where the advertiser asks that we contact them for "more information".

So, when I follow that protocol and ask rather vaguely something along the lines of, "I noticed your ad on (insert advertising venue name here) to contact you for more information. May I ask what more you're willing to share about yourself?" Please understand that it's because I'm being extremely cautious and am no longer comfortable asking questions about rates and specific services. So, I'm expecting that the advertisers understand that it's up to them now to offer as complete and specific an answer to that type of question of their own free will and that if they remain vague about the nature of rates and/or services or possibly do not list a service in which I am interested, I will most likely thank them for their time and move on.

In the past few weeks, of the handful of advertisers that I've contacted, only one seemed to understand this. And one I contacted yesterday was particularly frustrating because when asking for more info, all I that she texted back was "I don't do bareback fs, pretty open minded." No mention of rates or specifics about services that she does offer. I actually broke my own rule and pressed for more specifics and she still didn't seem to get it and only responded by noting "I just told you my restriction" To which I finally gave up, thanking her for her time. She sent one final text thereafter finally noting that "I offer full service luv" -- still no rate or specifics about say basic FS or GFE? CBJ vs. BBBJ? LFK? DFK? MSOG?
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  1. Man Mountain's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Claire Monet View Post
    lol This can work both ways. For me to feel comfortable booking with someone I like to know a bit about them and what they're looking for. Asking for this info can be akin to pulling teeth. A lot of guys understand this process and kindly reply with something along the lines of "My name is Rob, I'm 47, from Kansas, I like slow and sensual encounters and reciprocating... My references are ....", but more often than you may think I receive responses like "I'm Kevin. 34. Want to make an appointment". Ughhhh. That's when I move on.

    MM, I'm sure it's frustrating from your perspective as well. Personally I'm not comfortable offering a "menu". When I'm asked what I provide (and if they've taken a few minutes to actually read my ads, site, and preferences ie gentlemen 30+ and initial contact through email I'd hope they'd have a pretty good understanding of me already) I reply with what I don't provide. I think that's reasonable, no? I can see how "I don't do bbfs" is rather curt and not very informative-- but maybe that really is her only restriction and she'd be fine with everything else from foot fetish to golden showers. lol one very open minded provider!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Claire Monet View Post
    lol This can work both ways. For me to feel comfortable booking with someone I like to know a bit about them and what they're looking for. Asking for this info can be akin to pulling teeth. A lot of guys understand this process and kindly reply with something along the lines of "My name is Rob, I'm 47, from Kansas, I like slow and sensual encounters and reciprocating... My references are ....", but more often than you may think I receive responses like "I'm Kevin. 34. Want to make an appointment". Ughhhh. That's when I move on.

    MM, I'm sure it's frustrating from your perspective as well. Personally I'm not comfortable offering a "menu". When I'm asked what I provide (and if they've taken a few minutes to actually read my ads, site, and preferences ie gentlemen 30+ and initial contact through email I'd hope they'd have a pretty good understanding of me already) I reply with what I don't provide. I think that's reasonable, no? I can see how "I don't do bbfs" is rather curt and not very informative-- but maybe that really is her only restriction and she'd be fine with everything else from foot fetish to golden showers. lol one very open minded provider!
    As one of the more established ladies who at the very least has a number of reviews out there already, I wouldn't necessarily think that this would apply as much to someone like you or other ladies in a similar circumstance. I haven't looked at your site recently and can't remember how detailed it is at this point but I have some recollection of your ads from pre C-36 times and would think that I at least would have a vague idea of what I could expect if I were to book time with you. I'm more referencing the ladies who might not be "known" in the same respect.

    Edit: Oh, regarding this:

    Quote Originally Posted by Claire Monet View Post
    I can see how "I don't do bbfs" is rather curt and not very informative-- but maybe that really is her only restriction and she'd be fine with everything else from foot fetish to golden showers. lol one very open minded provider!
    I think for many of us who have been around long enough to know better, speculating about what an SP will "maybe" offer just isn't good enough. There's a reason we have come to ask for and expect specifics

    Another note: I've also noticed some ads that have included a link to a website with a note to look for more info on that site, only to find that site still lacks the basic information about rates and services. In one such instance, I emailed her to let her know that information was not to be found on her site, and unfortunately her reply was still vague as to specifics. I did get basic rates with time frames but no specifics about services.