I have a buddy who is going through a divorce. The only thing he wants is to ensure equal time with the kids. His ex wants soul custody. Anyone got advice or references I can pass on to him?
Thanks,
Shuffle
You got to be kidding right? Oh yeah you're the one who lives in the basement of his mom's house. Perhaps you should go back to your D & D cards.Tell your buddy, not to give into this bitch for anything...fight for every red cent and the kids (if that is what he wants).
Once the courts rule on his side (hopefully), he should show up with SP's when he picks up and drops off the kids.
Also, tell him to purchase new toys, like fancy sports cars, clothes, and always be smiling when the bitch is around.
Although I agree with that out of the principal it also serves another purpose. The more you can keep your hands on the stronger is your position down the line when you're negotiating for more time with kids. Ex's being the whores that they are will trade goodies/payments/anything u feel throwing at them in reutrn for giving him more access.Tell your buddy, not to give into this bitch for anything...fight for every red cent and the kids (if that is what he wants).
Once the courts rule on his side (hopefully), he should show up with SP's when he picks up and drops off the kids.
Also, tell him to purchase new toys, like fancy sports cars, clothes, and always be smiling when the bitch is around.
YesThere's not enough information given to give advice.
Was he paying his share of the household expenses?
Yes, but she was probably more visible at school functions. I'll ask him.Was he being an active father, playing with the children, taking them to their activities, attending school functions and making decisions on their care?
Not abusive, and isn't no fault divorce law in effect?Is he at fault in the divorce? Was he abusive to her or the children?
I appreciate the shared knowledge. This is exactly why I posted the question here.My divorce finally ended, which took 2.5 yrs. I'm happy to share my experience, cause it cost me a pretty penny.
I couldn't agree more. I am hoping he will be successful. Otherwise I think it will do him in.Soap Box:
Kids need their dad just as much as they need their mom. It's absolutely important that they have both. Notwithstanding situations that may cause harm to a child of course, any visitation that is imbalanced isn't good for any kid, cause it devalues the other parent. Anyone can argue differently, but it's absolutely true. I honestly believe that a lot of the problems we see in kids today are because historically visitation has been heavily skewed to favor moms, and kids have suffered because they haven't had their dads. I understand in a lot of situations the dads are the ones to blame, but the system has also played its part in the mess.
Sounds like you need a priest. She wants custody of his soul, sounds like Satan is a broad.The only thing he wants is to ensure equal time with the kids. His ex wants soul custody.
Shuffle
Hey alinburnaby,The court system is set up to deal with fault. To divorce without fault, it is necessary for both people to be adult and accept arbitration. How often does that happen?
What I forgot to add is, who initiated the divorce action? It's usually the woman, which means she will attempt to prove that he was cheating and spending family money on his illicit relationship. If he initiated the divorce in order to get on with a new relationship, it's going to be really ugly in court. The claim will be that he didn't provide for the financial needs of her and the children. All the rest of the claims are dross and are usually ignored by the court.