BDSM Myths

Aeiyah

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I saw this list on another website. Anyone care to add to it?

Myth #1: There is some kind of universal BDSM protocol, standard, belief or way to “do” BDSM. (Ironically, some people label themselves as being part of an alternative lifestyle and then say there is a right way to do it)
Myth #2: Switches aren't really switches; they just can't make up their minds or are refusing to admit who they really are.
Myth #3: You have to sub or bottom before you can be a good dominant.
Myth #4: A real dominant never submits or bottoms.
Myth #5: A real submissive never tops.
Myth #6: length of time in BDSM gives you authority over newbies
Myth #7: There is such a thing as a "real" Top, bottom, slave, submissive, Dominant, Mistress, Master, Lord, Lady, Sadist, or masochist.
Myth #8: A submissive is the same as a bottom, a bottom is the same as a slave, a slave is the same as a masochist, and a masochist is the same as a submissive.
Myth #9: BDSM’rs are more accepting of differences of behaviour and opinion than the general population.
Myth #10: Because a BDSM practitioner has been engaging and participating in BDSM activities for more than a couple years, they are automatically safe, have a mature attitude, and serve as an appropriate authority figure and should be observed as such.
 

Miss Kittie

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Wow

How did I miss this thread - must have been very busy!

First off - I would like to ask where this list originated from and add that I am very happy to see they are under the heading of BDSM 'myths'.

As for me, I was one of those that has experience as a bottom - one that felt the corporal punishment and commands of someone else and obeyed. Although I always knew I was Dominant - I was young - in my late teens and then switched for a number of years in my early 20s...

So, for the past few years and while at school (and using psychology for play purposes) I made that last jump and took control of my life and thus became Dominant in all areas - including feeling comfortable making demands of others - which most of the time (I am speaking of vanilla people here) people obeyed.

So, with all my rambling, I come to this semi-conclusion:

Does 'experience' make you better at anything?

Perhaps - but it does not make up for personality, life experiences etc etc.

Some people are naturally gifted, others may have to work a bit harder to become 'good' - and others are good at 'playing a part' - taking off the 'costumes' when there is no need for it anymore.

I fall somewhere in the middle - BDSM is great - and for the most part I am very autonomous, very intelligent and confident, too in my daily life when I am not 'in session'.

People naturally like to make Women happy - well most anyways... :D
 
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