How did it all begin?

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On Mistress Dominique's Website she states "It all started with an early fixation on "taking" my male lovers with a strap-on".
Interesting- How did it all begin for each of us?
I remember getting turned on by the newspaper reports of the trial of Christine Keeler and Mandy Rice Davies in United Kingdom. Their exploits of using a cane on grown men was quite exciting and still is.
My first personal memories are of taking a young girl friend deep in the bush behind our property and tying her hands to a tree, taking down her blue panties and spanking her bottom.
I continued to enjoy spanking the bottoms of my girlfriends for many years until I switched from Top to Bottom.
In Denmark in 1976 I visited the Red Light District in Copenhagen and met a lady and asked her to use a belt on my backside. She did so willingly and I really enjoyed how that made me feel and have been enjoying the submissive side of BDSM ever since.
What are your first memories and how did you all start out?
 
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Yup-great question!

I expect at least 50 posts on this one. C'mon lurkers!

My start was a combination...

1st: A friend gave me a link to an online forum where people wrote dirty stories and posted them. The stories about BDSM made me the hottest. The first one was about a young women who started a job as a maid in a fancy mansion and by the end of the very long story she was tied up in front of a dozen guests, with electro's on her nipples and clit. Each guest took a turn on her which included corporal and anal. She watched herself on a large screen and by the end she willingly allowed a dog to have her...hey, go 'yuck' all you want. What was hot about this was that I followed her journey from 'vanilla' to 'happy whore' in her own head. The story was written from her perspective. Plus, taboo stuff has always done it for me, and for a lot of other people too.

2nd: I ended up at a live sex/BDSM place in San Fransisco and was invited into a scene where I had my first taste of being Domme AND submissive. I fisted the girl on the rack, she fucked my boot (shoe shine) and then I got flogged, pants around my ankles in front of a large group of men. I was welcomed into the community by some very key players and returned several times to SF as a sub and got flogged by some of the most skilled Dommes in the US. I got to meet Midori (Author of: "The Art of Japanese Rope Bondage.") During that time I bought my first strap-on but didn't use it for a couple of years. I had the urge but wanted my first time to be special (and you didn't know I was romantic *smile*)

3rd: Many of you know that I started on Perb doing 'voyeur shows/peep shows/masturbation shows'. It may not seem at first to be very 'Domme-ish' but it was. I controlled the situation. It was tease and denial and I didn't even know it at the time. I'm an exhibitionist and I have a filthy mind. I loved having men desire me and not letting them have me. I loved letting them see exactly what they would never have. Eventually some clients started to ask me to spank them, role-play or worship my feet. I already knew a lot about BDSM from my personal life and tons of reading it just hadn't occurred to me to make it a profession. It found me, really. As clients became regular and reviews started coming it grew into my life. I did what I felt comfortable with and got training where I needed it. It's been and continues to be an exciting journey.
 

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My interest started a part of the job. Shackles, straps, cages etc., were all part of the daily work experience. Bondage / Sadism in the extreme also became part of the picture. There were in fact situations where there were no limits and there was a certain intense sensation that related to that. But, they say all good things must come to an end, and it did. For a lot of years after that vanilla was my life, but about four years ago I slowly got back into BDSM and started to play a bit. Now it's here and there to scratch an itch, but while I try/like to push the boundaries and bend them a bit, I realize that the old rules no longer apply. We are all playing in a vanilla world, and where I started it was anything but.
 

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When I was around 14, I got a hold of a couple of adult fetish magazines. There were two images in the magazine that I found particularly arousing. They made for a lot of fantasy/masturbation fodder.

The first was a woman who was gagged, her arms in binders and her legs tied to spreader bar and partially suspended. I so much wanted to put a woman in that compromising position and have her until I was satisfied.

The second picture had a guy, lying naked on the floor, looking up at two female dommes dressed in knee high stilletto boots, stockings and nothing else. One domme was pressing the heal of her boot into the guys chest. The other was crushing the guys cock with sole of her boot while the heel was digging into his scrotum. I so much wanted to be that guy, first tortured by the two dommes and then fucked by them.

For the longest time, I didn't know anybody who had the same kinky thoughts that I did. I kept it to myself and remained a closest kinkster until recently. It was about a couple of years ago when I finally started to open up. It started when I met a local community leader in the kink community. I didn't know then she was even kinkier than I was. I remember talking to her and being afraid she would think that I was weird and a pervert. We became friends and as I got to know her better and meet other kinksters, I began to talk about things more.

The next stage was the realization that I enjoyed intense pain and that my pain tolerance was higher than most. Two non-BDSM experiences reinforced this. One was a dental procedure that I had done about a year ago. While it was painfull, I enjoyed how it felt. The second was when I tried laser hair removal. While the treatment exceeded my pain tolerance, albeit for a very brief moment, I discovered I was able to accept and process the pain without flinching. Afterwards I enjoyed an endorphin high that lasted for the rest of the day.

My finally step into the BDSM world was about 6 months ago when I finally had the courage to call a pro-domme and book an appointment with her. After she took my BDSM virginity, I was pretty much hooked into the lifestyle.
 

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Interesting to hear how everyone has moved into their BDSM life. A very common strain to date is the subs starting out as doms and the Dommes starting out as subs.
Mistress T. the image you paint in your response is tantalizing. The thought of seeing you with your pants at your ankles being flogged is exciting. I even took a look at your website pictures to enhance my imagination as to how your wonderful ass would look in the receiving rather than the giving position.
I am happy you have found yourself more comfortable as a Domme. From all I have read you are marvellous.
It is an exciting journey?

cuteeboy
 

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How did it begin?

Like most 25 year olds I knew everything. I had been six years in the British army had two tours of Northern Ireland under my belt and had just 3 months previously got accepted into the Royal Marines and was off to Yemen, so I need a set of jabs .
I walked into the Doc office and there was a young nurse. While I was giving her the chat I managed to knock over a vase full of flowers and water which ended up in the open draw on her desk. For some reason I thought this was funny until the other door opened and in came the “Doc” a very fit looking 40ish Jenny (female officer) . I thought she would report me instead she told me to report to her after I had finished for the day.
I got to her office around 7.30 a little later then she had expected me. When I got inside there was no one there so I turned to leave, the door closed and there she was, she had been standing behind the door. She was wearing a service coat and that she dropped to the floor there she stood in black silk underwear holding a leather strap.
She barked out an order and I found myself naked on my knees in front of her , she told me that this was were I was to be every night for the next two weeks .
That was the start of spending many hours on my knees looking at some of the worlds most beautiful women and waiting for them to order me to either do something of take a good thrashing .
 

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I started (way back when!), by repeatedly living out a fantasy of being tied up by a beautiful women who slowly teased me and drove me crazy. In real life, I found that while I enjoyed that for a little while, I'd always break out and completely turn the tables. So eventually it donned on me that we really were both playing the wrong roles!

As time went on I was always amazed at the women (who would never give you the time of day if you tried to pick them up in a bar) who would find some way of tracking you down if word got around that you would "make" them do some really "dirty" stuff (but could be trusted not to abuse it). That was back when there were a lot fewer players to choose from because BDSM was a really dirty secret and not open and "trendy" like it is today!

A great deal of mutual trust is required and you really must be a good match as far as your tastes go. Plus you have to understand what each individual sub REALLY wants and you must pay very careful attention to all of the hints and cues. After all, the secret to getting them off is to "make" them do the very things that they've dreamt about but needed a push to do, while not taking them in directions that don't do anything for them. And, of course, if they really get off on it, then that gets me going.

Which raises the age old question. Who's really in control in such a relationship?!! :D
 

Aeiyah

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Which raises the age old question. Who's really in control in such a relationship?!! :D
That's a potentially loaded question. One time, after being tied-up and blind-folded, the lovely and sadistic woman I was playing with whispered in my ear, "this is for taunting me about who is in control!!". She proceeded to inflict a whipping on my ass. I allowed her to cling to her delusional belief that she was the one in control. :)
 
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Constant craving

That's a potentially loaded question. One time, after being tied-up and blind-folded, the lovely and sadistic woman I was playing with whispered in my ear, "this is for taunting me about who is in control!!". She proceeded to inflict a whipping on my ass. I allowed her to cling to her delusional belief that she was the one in control. :)
Smartass. Just because you're so clever that life tends to bore you doesn't mean that you have it all figured out. To be so close to something you desire so much, yet have it just out of your reach... To wonder if maybe, maybe if you play your cards right you might one day have what you crave. You're playing a game you think you might win, otherwise I doubt you would bother to play it. A challenge is refreshing though, hmm?

Maybe this has little or nothing to do with control.

Things are not always as they appear.
 

Aeiyah

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Interesting Point

As in the Shakespeare line from 12th Night, "give me excess of it so my appetite my whither and die", I got bored with the things that I can have. I rack that up to being somebody who was spoiled as a little kid. Putting things I desire just out of my reach or making them scarce keeps my interest level up.

Now getting back to JustCallMeR's question. My real "short" answer is control is shared and exchanged.

But we've digressed from the original topic of this thread.
 
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What's your story morning glory?

But we've digressed from the original topic of this thread.
We tend to do that here...

So, lurkers! Over 100 views and less than a dozen responses.

Sharing is caring. Come out, come out where ever you are...the reward of contributing is worth it.
 

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We tend to do that here...

So, lurkers! Over 100 views and less than a dozen responses.

Sharing is caring. Come out, come out where ever you are...the reward of contributing is worth it.
For me, I was 25 and on my first visit to Hedonism II and as part of the weekly pajama party, they had prizes for the best bondage outfit. Being the naive boy I was, I was blown away by the outfits and the people being led around by a collar and so wanting to be that guy on the end of the leash. Seeing the lady dressed with thigh high lace up boots with a 4 inch heel also drove me crazy. Always being single and not knowing much about the lifestyle that was were it was left.

Fast forward 12 years and I am in Seattle for work and go into one of the local strip clubs to kill some time and as I am about to leave, this goddess walks over and asks if I am interested in a private dance. 20 minutes later I am booking a champagne room. During the time she is blowing near my ear and I whisper to her that it is alright to nibble on my ear lobe. Next thing I know, it is getting a little painful, but I asked for it and she was doing it and I was not about to stop her. Get back to my hotel and my ear lobes are swollen and bright red. All I could think of, was A) thank goodness it was 1 am and the lobby was empty, and B) how cool is that. Go back a couple of days later and spend 2 hours in the champagne room and she proceeds to get me off with her feet.

A month later, I have my first visit to a MP and as I start to get comfortable in the surroundings and doing more reading/lurking, the thought of having a lady get me off with her feet, visiting one of my favorite ladies and taking a trip into the Dom rooms to play, letting one of them use a strap-on on me or going for the whole enchilada and visiting Mistress T on some Vancouver trip (or one of her road trips) becomes a great possibility.

It has only taken me 13 years to get to this point, but the growth has really come in the last 3 months.
 

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I wonder how many of the lurkers are afraid to share their kinky thoughts? While many of the contributors to the "vanilla" portion of the site can be judgmental and narrow-minded, the kinksters tend to be a more open-minded and accepting group. Since I started posting here and sharing some of my BDSM experiences, I've discovered that my interests are shared by a lot more people than I thought. It's also made my sessions with a couple of the escorts I see regularly more interesting as they are curious about a side of me that they don't get to see.
 
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I never really got into the whole BDSM world and I'm still not really into most of it all. I dont mind experimenting But I'm still Iffy on this subject and acts. I'm not sure why either.

Anyway, I discovered this world mainly when I purchased a Computer.:D It's one of those things we guys do. Who doesn't though?? Come on!!

I dont remember how I found it but I accidently came across Mistress Elektra Skye website and I thought ---- GOOD GOD IS SHE GORGEOUS!!!
At that time I saw a facesitting Video she had sampled on there and I was somewhat amazed in that and said to myself I gotta try that!! Especially in thin panties. I prefer in the nude But Dommes wont do that which is cool. Unless your jessikaxx which is on my list to visit! Maybe next!! She can tie me down anyday!

I suddenly became a magnet to Face and ass sitting. I looked erotic to me and being at the Mercy of a gorgeous Girl like that you can't lose!

I then found some websites relating to facesitting and showed different ways the girls doing this.

1 -- Mistress facesitting while on the computer or talking on the phone and raising herself very slightly for air and then sit again.

2 -- Being tied down on a bed and facesat and ass sat.

3-- sitting against a wall and having the Mistress bury the client in ass.

4 --Crossed legged facesitting

5-- some scenes with tape on the mouth and nose breathing only. Thats kind of freaky.

ETC ETC.

All of these senarios Above I love BTW:p

I've never experienced Trampling although looks neat. Facial G/S not sure about that. Strap in had once.

The facesitting lead to break down and visit MISS T. I found her on here!

And I have a session with her again lined up soon.

Thats my story. Might a little boring to some but Oh well. I put my 2 cents in.:) :)
 
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:) I guess you got to start somewhere so I thought this would be a topic to start with. My favourite part of a woman are their legs.
My first job was as a busboy in a five star Vanc restaurant. At one time I was fortunate eneough to work with a long legged dark haired waitress name Karen. She worked out at the gym during the day to shape her beautiful legs and waitressed at night. At first she was nice but soon become a manipulative , bossy bitch. I had to work my ass off for her every night as she ordered me around , snapping her fingers to do things.I loved every minute of this !! Especially when she seemed to realize I was working so hard for her and called me her little " SLAVE". I couldnt wait to go home and violate myself in my special place thinking of her sexy black shoes she wore.
My climatic scenario was when I was with her in the kitchen and she told me to serve two coffee. I dropped the cream container and alot of cream went all over her black shoes. She erupted in anger calling me a F---ing dumb ass and ordered me to clean her shoes. At this point I WAS IN ABSOLUT HEAVEN !
She sat in a chair in the corner of the kitchen as I grabbed a wet cloth napkin to do the cleaning.My stomach turned with unreal wonderful feeling of humilation as I had to get on my knees and bow down to this bitch. I wanted to lick the dirt off her soles and she sat their with a smerk on her face.Talk about pure tortue being so close to her lovely legs but no touching allowed. I wanted that feeling of being degrated by this bitch to last for more than a few minutes.
There was one other incident that was almost as much of a turn on. Shortly after that she went back to school and I worked at a different place. Dont ever know what may have happened if I ever offered her money to worship her shoes.?More than likely would have been groused out. Thats not a exeperience with a real Dom but I knew I wanted the real thing even more with a pro domme.
 

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How it all started...

I remember back in highschool a very sexual friend I had that mentioned having sex with a guy that was tied up. She went into great detail about how she rubbed her bare breasts on him while he was blindfolded. I was a goth girl in highschool, too...
That was compounded with memories of my childhood where I would sneak away with boys and we would pee together - thus showing eachother our genitals. Us girls even went as far as having all the girls sit on boys during recess and sneak kisses while they thrashed around pretending they didnt like it :rolleyes:
In my early adult years I was completly submissive and even went as far as being 'traded' between partners. I didnt like that much - but it got me into the headspace of what its like to be submissive. When I started reading porn I would enjoy the stories of women taking what they wanted - this was in my early 20's and when I finally said to myself - "I want that too!" I left my relationship and came to the city. I put myself through school and played around a few times. I know I am just learning the ropes and its been fun. I have been trying to get training since but my schooling has been getting in the way. We'll see what happens after practicum! ;)
 
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Welcome Koki

Thanks for sharing and welcome to the playground.

PM me to arrange your 20 mins free or 50% off session. Now.

If you can type while on your knees, all the better.
 

Aeiyah

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Hey Koki, I recommend asking for the Boot Worship Service

Miss T has some great boots that I'm certain that she would let you clean for her. :)
 
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"Let"

Miss T has some great boots that I'm certain that she would let you clean for her. :)
Ha ha: "Let", as if he'll be given any choice. Drink lots of fluids that day koki, you're going to need all the saliva you can produce. No wet napkins for you.
 
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