Life in the bdsm world is an interesting one. I have been exploring it online for 8 years and bit by bit I am choosing to experience it more now in real life. Lately, i have come to the realization that it will be part of my life forever, but it cannot be my life. I think this could be true for a large number of us reading this.
Too many of us are in careers or families that do not approve of this lifestyle, and lets face it, society as a whole struggles to admit it exists. I thought for a long time about how one finds a way to incorporate it into their regular lives, especially if they are like me and have a vanilla partner. I have also thought about how one might try to keep the two worlds separate. Living double lives as it were. It is in fact what i am doing now.
I ask you all the following, Can one sanely compartmentalize the real world where we have responsibilities and lives not condusive to bdsm, from the world of bdsm, where we obtain so much joy, and fulfill such an internal need?
Right now I am living two lives, one where i am fairly newly married and loving that part of my world. The other is where I have recently discovered i cannot cut bdsm out of my life and must find a way of fulfilling that need when my partner does not find the bdsm world appealing at all. You may say, why would you marry someone who does not share your same beliefs, but at the time I felt i was leaving the bdsm world behind. So I am left with the dilemma of being married and loving being married but my submissive bdsm needs tear me away from the dream of getting a house, and 2.5 kids.
Feel free to ignore my personal rants, and key in on the question I ask for the thread of, Can one sanely compartmentalize the real world where we have responsibilities and lives not condusive to bdsm, from the world of bdsm, where we obtain so much joy, and fulfill such an internal need?
Anyways this thread was spurred on by Mistress T's challenge/promise. Unfortunately I have already seen you twice Miss T so I think it disqualifies me from your motivational rewards
Too many of us are in careers or families that do not approve of this lifestyle, and lets face it, society as a whole struggles to admit it exists. I thought for a long time about how one finds a way to incorporate it into their regular lives, especially if they are like me and have a vanilla partner. I have also thought about how one might try to keep the two worlds separate. Living double lives as it were. It is in fact what i am doing now.
I ask you all the following, Can one sanely compartmentalize the real world where we have responsibilities and lives not condusive to bdsm, from the world of bdsm, where we obtain so much joy, and fulfill such an internal need?
Right now I am living two lives, one where i am fairly newly married and loving that part of my world. The other is where I have recently discovered i cannot cut bdsm out of my life and must find a way of fulfilling that need when my partner does not find the bdsm world appealing at all. You may say, why would you marry someone who does not share your same beliefs, but at the time I felt i was leaving the bdsm world behind. So I am left with the dilemma of being married and loving being married but my submissive bdsm needs tear me away from the dream of getting a house, and 2.5 kids.
Feel free to ignore my personal rants, and key in on the question I ask for the thread of, Can one sanely compartmentalize the real world where we have responsibilities and lives not condusive to bdsm, from the world of bdsm, where we obtain so much joy, and fulfill such an internal need?
Anyways this thread was spurred on by Mistress T's challenge/promise. Unfortunately I have already seen you twice Miss T so I think it disqualifies me from your motivational rewards