I've been reading about the bdsm scene for quite some time now, but have never took the plunge because I'm not sure if it is right for me. I know I'm not into the whole pain, humiliation, or feminization thing. I do know that I like the feel and sight of tight leather or latex on a lady. In fact, I think I get more turned on by a woman in hot catsuit than I do seeing her naked. I also love women who are dominant in a sensual way. I think it's the control factor that is key ... a confident woman in control is something I admire. The cruel bitch type woman is of no interest to me.
I suppose this part of me is more of a "release" from everyday life than who I really am. In my real life, you wouldn't want to come up against me in a boardroom or courtroom. I'm not an overly aggressive person, but I do know how to get my way and persuade people into following my way of thinking - I'm not a pushover, and I won't back down from a fight. I guess I'm just trying to say that you wouldn't have a clue that I have submissive tendancies if you met me. I'm curious if other sexually submissive guys are like me, or do they always show submissive tendancies in all aspects of their life?
My ultimate fantasy is a little different, but I think it is somewhat related to bdsm. I guess it started as a fetish, but it has developed into a more X-rated fantasy role play scene. I have always had a fetish for getting my hair cut in an old fashion barber shop, and I will only let a female cut my hair. The fetish connection for me is if the barber has dominant tendancies and she takes control of the haircut. For a normal haircut, the customer is always in control because the barber must do what the customer says, so it is quite rare to find the type of barber I seek. If the barber decides to cut my hair shorter than I asked, or uses her clippers and razors in a sensually erotic manner, then my pants start to get a little tight! The old barber chair, and the nylon cape I believe are also symbols of dominance. When the cape goes on, I feel it is a subtle symbol of bondage. The cape locks me in to the barber's control. A barber who knows she has gained control and uses her feminine qualities to make her client feel uneasy in an exciting erotic manner is definitely the barber for me.
Now I guess this is where my imagination starts to kick in. After a very erotic haircut and face shave, the barber would tie me to her chair using leather restraints. The chair would be tilted back, and the clippers and razor would go to work on other areas of my body. I also have some interest in anal play, and perhaps a strap-on, so that would be a good way for my erotic barber to finish me off. A "release" of any kind would also be a good way to finish.
I think this barber shop scene is similar to a medical or dental fetish. The only thing with medical or dental scenes in real life is that a medical or dental practitioner is always in control and can pretty much poke and prod their client any way they wish. As I have already mentioned, a barber is supposed to do what the customer says.
One last note ... even though I have fantasies about being shaved bald, or getting a military type haircut - the haircut itself is not really part of the fetish. It's the whole act of losing control to a dominant lady barber whose actions lead to my ultimate pleasure. I love the feel of a good set of barber clippers buzzing my nape and vibrating around my ears. I quiver every time the clippers touch one of my erogenous zones. I think the electric clippers are just vibrators for barbers!
I would love to hear comments from others who may have similar thoughts on the topic of haircutting/shaving or perhaps you have other role play fantasies where a female practitioner takes control. And by all means, if anyone knows of a great female barber, please let me know!
I suppose this part of me is more of a "release" from everyday life than who I really am. In my real life, you wouldn't want to come up against me in a boardroom or courtroom. I'm not an overly aggressive person, but I do know how to get my way and persuade people into following my way of thinking - I'm not a pushover, and I won't back down from a fight. I guess I'm just trying to say that you wouldn't have a clue that I have submissive tendancies if you met me. I'm curious if other sexually submissive guys are like me, or do they always show submissive tendancies in all aspects of their life?
My ultimate fantasy is a little different, but I think it is somewhat related to bdsm. I guess it started as a fetish, but it has developed into a more X-rated fantasy role play scene. I have always had a fetish for getting my hair cut in an old fashion barber shop, and I will only let a female cut my hair. The fetish connection for me is if the barber has dominant tendancies and she takes control of the haircut. For a normal haircut, the customer is always in control because the barber must do what the customer says, so it is quite rare to find the type of barber I seek. If the barber decides to cut my hair shorter than I asked, or uses her clippers and razors in a sensually erotic manner, then my pants start to get a little tight! The old barber chair, and the nylon cape I believe are also symbols of dominance. When the cape goes on, I feel it is a subtle symbol of bondage. The cape locks me in to the barber's control. A barber who knows she has gained control and uses her feminine qualities to make her client feel uneasy in an exciting erotic manner is definitely the barber for me.
Now I guess this is where my imagination starts to kick in. After a very erotic haircut and face shave, the barber would tie me to her chair using leather restraints. The chair would be tilted back, and the clippers and razor would go to work on other areas of my body. I also have some interest in anal play, and perhaps a strap-on, so that would be a good way for my erotic barber to finish me off. A "release" of any kind would also be a good way to finish.
I think this barber shop scene is similar to a medical or dental fetish. The only thing with medical or dental scenes in real life is that a medical or dental practitioner is always in control and can pretty much poke and prod their client any way they wish. As I have already mentioned, a barber is supposed to do what the customer says.
One last note ... even though I have fantasies about being shaved bald, or getting a military type haircut - the haircut itself is not really part of the fetish. It's the whole act of losing control to a dominant lady barber whose actions lead to my ultimate pleasure. I love the feel of a good set of barber clippers buzzing my nape and vibrating around my ears. I quiver every time the clippers touch one of my erogenous zones. I think the electric clippers are just vibrators for barbers!
I would love to hear comments from others who may have similar thoughts on the topic of haircutting/shaving or perhaps you have other role play fantasies where a female practitioner takes control. And by all means, if anyone knows of a great female barber, please let me know!
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