Well as the title says I'm a newbie to BDSM. I haven't really tried anything along those lines.......yet. I know I'm NOT into getting tied up or being dominated but what are some other suggestions that might float my boat?
May I suggest a sampler session with the Domme of your choice? QUOTE]
Why ? He clearly states he is not into being tied up or dominated.
I would suggest go to a munch and meet a cross section of people in the scene. Talk to them and get an idea of the options open to you. Go to one of the play parties and observe, see what catches your fancy. There are a number of events, that are group events where you can fade into the background and learn. Just don't be lurker, make it clear that you are new to this and you'll find that people will be willing to help you get your feet wet, or theirs, depending on inclination.
Like a boy on the school ground, I wonder if you have a crush on me?
Once upon a very long time ago, I fancied myself as a pure dom who'd never want to try even those simple things you describe, and even if i did, i really couldn't imagine trusting a stranger who could do whatever she wanted once I was restrained. Happily, one of the very first ladies i played with introduced me to the simple concept that if you want to be a good dom, you gotta know how the sub feels. So on the condition of no restraints, I agreed to be her sub-boy at the start of a session. It changed my life. Within the first few minutes I realized how liberating it is to not be in charge. to not be the one responsible for the other person's limits/safety. i also realized pretty quickly that i was at least mildly masochistic.Well as the title says I'm a newbie to BDSM. I haven't really tried anything along those lines.......yet. I know I'm NOT into getting tied up or being dominated but what are some other suggestions that might float my boat?