Newbie to BDSM

buffdaddy06

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Well as the title says I'm a newbie to BDSM. I haven't really tried anything along those lines.......yet. I know I'm NOT into getting tied up or being dominated but what are some other suggestions that might float my boat?
 
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Sampler session...

May I suggest a sampler session with the Domme of your choice?

A session where you're given a list of options beforehand. You think about it, choose the things you want to try for sure (wish list), the things you think you might like (maybe list) and the things you are sure you won't like (no-go list).

Examples:
Sensory deprivation
Golden showers
Anal play/strap/on
Cross dressing
Humiliation
Spanking/paddling
Pushing your pain threshold
Cock & ball torture (mild)
Sensual domination/Tease & denial
Foot worship/body worship
Breath control/face-sitting

You can also explore fetish websites to see what tickles your fancy...
 

Aeiyah

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A few other common fetishes that don't require pain or dominance include - age play (I know a few people who enjoy being adult babies), puppy training, pony play, forniphilia (i.e. using humans as furniture)

Albany Power Exchange has a very extensive checklist and lot's of good info.
 

uncleg

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May I suggest a sampler session with the Domme of your choice? QUOTE]


Why ? He clearly states he is not into being tied up or dominated.

I would suggest go to a munch and meet a cross section of people in the scene. Talk to them and get an idea of the options open to you. Go to one of the play parties and observe, see what catches your fancy. There are a number of events, that are group events where you can fade into the background and learn. Just don't be lurker, make it clear that you are new to this and you'll find that people will be willing to help you get your feet wet, or theirs, depending on inclination.:D
 

uncleg

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Small Pleasures....

does the above qualify for your offer of a free or discounted session with you?:D :p
 
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Another fan?

Uncleg: Your attention is noted. You've gone out of your way to nudge me in a negative way several times in this section and in the lounge this morning.

Like a boy on the school ground, I wonder if you have a crush on me?
 

uncleg

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Like a boy on the school ground, I wonder if you have a crush on me?[/QUOTE]



Boy on a school ground, not so much since I'm old enough to be your daddy. :eek: As to the crush on you, no. But I should qualify that by saying I'd love to put you over my knee and spank that perky little butt of yours.:p :D Too bad that's not your thing.:(
 

Aeiyah

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I've often wanted to turn a scene around by escaping from my bondage, physically overtaking the domme, tying her up and the subjecting her to pain and whatever else my sadistic mind can imagine, until she begs for mercy. (I do so much want to pull a zipper and make my subbie scream)
 
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Don't be so sure uncleg...

Like a boy on the school ground, I wonder if you have a crush on me?


Boy on a school ground, not so much since I'm old enough to be your daddy. :eek: As to the crush on you, no. But I should qualify that by saying I'd love to put you over my knee and spank that perky little butt of yours.:p :D Too bad that's not your thing.:([/QUOTE]

I was being cheeky about the crush. Frankly, you've been a bit of an ass to me today, but that's okay.

Spanking isn't so much my thing. Flogging is. My advice to the newbie still stands, even tho you so vocally disagreed, as I think everyone should explore both sides, sub and Domme and different things. Often one can't predict how they'll feel until in the moment.

Back to you and me. I would enjoy a good flogging if you're the man for it. I explored my sub side years ago and even tho most things weren't for me and I'm clearly not submissive, I did enjoy a good flogging from someone with skill. If you don't mind an audience, I would want Mistress Dominique to be there.

That would be considered your freebie for contributing. Shall we set it up for this week?
 

uncleg

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I was being cheeky/ Shall we set it up for this week?[/QUOTE]


That's what I love about you, your cheekiness.:D As for setting it up this week, time will not permit. However, I would like to contact you to maybe set it up for a later date.:) If that works for you.

Hey, how was I being an ass to you??:eek:
 

buddha2

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Don't be so sure...

Well as the title says I'm a newbie to BDSM. I haven't really tried anything along those lines.......yet. I know I'm NOT into getting tied up or being dominated but what are some other suggestions that might float my boat?
Once upon a very long time ago, I fancied myself as a pure dom who'd never want to try even those simple things you describe, and even if i did, i really couldn't imagine trusting a stranger who could do whatever she wanted once I was restrained. Happily, one of the very first ladies i played with introduced me to the simple concept that if you want to be a good dom, you gotta know how the sub feels. So on the condition of no restraints, I agreed to be her sub-boy at the start of a session. It changed my life. Within the first few minutes I realized how liberating it is to not be in charge. to not be the one responsible for the other person's limits/safety. i also realized pretty quickly that i was at least mildly masochistic.

Now I'm a very happy switch! So I put this out to you. To get trust you gotta give it. Have a good conversation with your prospective domme, set up your safe words, and then let her experience be your guide....
 

Aeiyah

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I discovered my masochistic side when I was barely out of diapers while playing hide and seek with my older siblings. I would get one of them to hide me. Some of the places where they have hidden me are a bathroom vanity, a sealed cardboard box, and a locked meat locker.
 
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