Luxxxe Affaire

I agreed to an NSA relationship..and now..

Willingham

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So a while back, through rigorous effort on the CL casual encounters section, I met this girl. I will just call her "D". She looks like Cleopatra with a few more curves which I like. Not to brag, but this girl knows her way around the bedroom if you know what I mean. I have never felt so uninhibited and free.

Problem is..this girl is with lots of guys, and freely talks about her encounters. Now I find myself jealous and upset. Of course I want her for my own now and thats not gonna happen. I guess NSA is not for me.

Last time I saw her she was talking about some club owner she met...and yadda yadda you know the rest. She calls him BMW. I think he takes care of her if you know what I mean.

I am starting to think sex isn't for me. I stopped pooning and now I get into this mess. Dammit.
 

bcneil

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The problem with NSA "friends" is it works both ways.
Lots of guys seem to like to have their cake and eat it too.

Sounds like you want to have a bunch of women, and each one of them
faithful to you only?
 

harry22

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Tough Situation...

That sucks, man. I guess there are a million ways for a woman to break a guy's heart. It goes both ways, though. A guy I know, who's married, started an NSA relationship with a girl through CL. She ended up falling in love with him, or at least wanted to pursue it more seriously, but he wasn't interested and was in any case married.

Male or female, we're all vulnerable to Willingham's dilemma. But it almost sounds like she might be rubbing it in your face a bit ...? Hope that's not the case. Maybe you'll win her over -- I think women get bored with those BMW guys after a while. However it turns out, good luck!
 

dipitydoo

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the thing with NSA relationships... is that you have to have a thick skin and be pretty confident about your manhood so that when you hear the girl talk about "the other guys" she's with, you just take it like a man without thinking that you're less than anyone else.

Good luck!
 

Ima

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So a while back, through rigorous effort on the CL casual encounters section, I met this girl. I will just call her "D". She looks like Cleopatra with a few more curves which I like. Not to brag, but this girl knows her way around the bedroom if you know what I mean. I have never felt so uninhibited and free.

Problem is..this girl is with lots of guys, and freely talks about her encounters. Now I find myself jealous and upset. Of course I want her for my own now and thats not gonna happen. I guess NSA is not for me.

Last time I saw her she was talking about some club owner she met...and yadda yadda you know the rest. She calls him BMW. I think he takes care of her if you know what I mean.

I am starting to think sex isn't for me. I stopped pooning and now I get into this mess. Dammit.

You could share her with us, give back to the community of sorts... :rolleyes:
 

jordan_

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I think NSA relationships work better when both parties remain silent about their other encounters.
Don't bring them up, and it's fine. It's really not necessary anyway.

That way you don't specifically have anything to feed your jealousy, And, neither would she because I'm sure she may feel a little too, even if not on purpose,if you were to divulge that information as freely as she obviously has.:)
 

Willingham

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Well I am glad I posted my issue. You all rock, Keep the suggestions coming.

She has told me that it is selfish of me to be jealous about what she does..hmmmm
 

maxx50

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Open minded

I personally would be OK with a NSA relationship.. Knowing that i was not the only one.. And I have no problem hearing about the other guys after all this is all part of her life what she thinks , likes and does .. and on here mind . and I like to here how she is with everything that is going on in her life..
This is something that i am more comfortable with , open relationships be cause i am not there to control a person. When I meet that person that I enjoy being with , then i will care about them , care for them if i can and be there when they need me but I want them to have a life where they do hat they want to as long as i am part of it . And i hope they feel the same about me.

No strings attached .. means there should not be the drama and possesivness that so often screw up a relationship I am not saying it is easy .. there has to be respect on both sides ,, and know when you are asking the other to accept to much You have to know and under stand the person and accept them for who they are. If you can't do that then don't be in the relationship .. weather it is a NSA, or as sugar daddy .. your favorite cortisone or just the girl of you dream. Love the person they are.
 

Willingham

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Feelings...oh those damn feelings always get in the way.

My biggest problem is that I wonder what she is doing when she is not with me. It plays on my mind. Its distracting. I have a demanding job and it is making life in general harder for me.

Feelings, nothing more than feelings... This is crazy, its what I have been wanting. I don't want to commit to anyone right now, and I certainly don't have to commit to her, she doesn't want that either.

Prayer..Yes, I think I will pray for an answer. First I need to believe there is a God..oh oh, I'm in trouble again.
 

dipitydoo

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give it a break! don't be stupid and begin thinking about "what she's doing when she's not with you"... that's bullshit. If that freaks you out, just start thinking about everything she did in her life before you met her! Not to be pessimistic or to put yourself down, but NOBODY is indispensable!

She was fine without you. You were fine without her. You are having fun with each other now, but don't be thinking so highly of yourself like you're the end all be all. You are yourself and she likes you for that, but her life cannot revolve around you, and neither can your life revolve around hers.

Make the best of your time together, and instead of thinking of her, why don't you focus on something else, like hitting on other girls since it's an open relationship... or focus on getting better at your job, or learning something new, whatever it is you want, but don't get all obsessed with this chick.
 

Sonny

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Feelings...oh those damn feelings always get in the way.
While there can be emotions in a NSA relationship, there is no room for emotional attachments. If your mind is occupied with thoughts of her, and your heart is at risk wondering what she is doing, then you are not material for NSA relationships. With NSA, she does whatever with no reference to you. In some ways, NSA is harder than having a SP for a girlfriend. Most SPs fuck as work for money (and there may be some coincidental pleasure) whereas the NSA partner definitely fucks whomever for pleasure. And, I wager that SPs in relationships are pretty clear about separating their work life from their personal life, guarding the latter with much care. The emotional looseness of NSA is something I think most folks cannot handle well.
 

Willingham

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My post was meant to be a warning for others. I know I am not cut out for this. I have not called her since I first posted this, and interestingly, she has not called me.
 
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