I've often thought about going to a dom--a lot of the services they provide are things I want. But what puts me off are the strict demands they usually make in their ads.
You have to play this whole role of being utterly subservient and submitting to their control. But I want to meet a nice woman, smile, laugh, have some little banter, and THEN kneel down before her.
When in the actual act, yes, I want to be sub. But I don't want the whole experience to be sub.
Since the very process of asking for a sub session seems to involve an act of subservience, I've never figured out how to approach a dom to get what I want (and even there I've expressed a desire which isn't supposed to be expressed--I mean "getting what I want" isn't in the glossary for sub sessions).
You have to play this whole role of being utterly subservient and submitting to their control. But I want to meet a nice woman, smile, laugh, have some little banter, and THEN kneel down before her.
When in the actual act, yes, I want to be sub. But I don't want the whole experience to be sub.
Since the very process of asking for a sub session seems to involve an act of subservience, I've never figured out how to approach a dom to get what I want (and even there I've expressed a desire which isn't supposed to be expressed--I mean "getting what I want" isn't in the glossary for sub sessions).