Client is nearly chocked to death (so be careful out there)

papillion

My escort name is Lora-Lana
Jan 31, 2006
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Woah

It pays to use common sense when visiting SPs. The domme should have agreed to check in every 5 minutes; the 2 should have used a safe word system too
 

MissingOne

awake but not woke
Jan 2, 2006
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For dangerous activities like that the client should never be unattended. If being left alone is part of his fetish, then the house should devise a way of creating that illusion, while still maintaining a constant safety watch.
 

Aeiyah

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Jul 12, 2004
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With any bondage or restraints, the sub should never be left unattended for any length of time. And in case something goes wrong with the dom, there needs to be some way for the sub to escape.
 

Jessikaxxx

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trust?

My suggestion to all subs is to do some research about the doms you visit.
Make sure youre confident about their skills and experience.What are their qualifications?
Dont let just anyone hold your fate in their hands.
Total subbmission is paired with confidence for all involved.

best wishes to all involved in N.Y.
xoxox,
jxxx
 

tampdown

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Key Issue

The KEY safety issue here is NOT - the matter of the domme checking the client regularly, or not leaving him for long periods of time.

The KEY safety issue is - never let yourself have anything tied around your neck which is attached to a hook. NEVER.

The domme should NEVER have agreed to this type of play.

I knew a domme in Vancouver who had a similar thing happen (well... nearly) After that she never tied anything around a client's neck to be attached to something else.

tamp
 

tampdown

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It would make sense if you already had established understanding of someone's limits. I have indeed played recreationally without the need for safe words when the trust was already established and boundaries were already known.

I just find it amazing though, that someone will put their LIFE into a complete stranger's hands, requesting extreme kinds of painful play that could result in serious damage, without the option of saying stop. It's a sadist's dream, I'm sure, but also one that could backfire in a very bad way.
My experience is that even if you don't play with safewords, there are still "limits". I played for years with one particular domme and I never used a safe word, but she always pushed me to (and sometimes slightly beyound what I thought were) my limits.

To me the whole thing is like a dance between the sub and the domme. If you're having to count out the steps as you dance, then it's not good dancing. It involves trust and connection. If that is there, then the formalities of safewords are a secondary issue.

tamp
 

PuntMeister

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Jul 13, 2003
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Tamp,

Well put dude. I love the dance metaphor. So fitting. When you find the right samba partner, you can ride the currents of exstatic bliss all night long.

I once read a thread about a subbie craving boot licking. All manner of liberal minded do-gooders cautioned readers of the dangers of licking the soles of boots that had been out and about in public, listing a plethora of contageous diseases one could contract, and admonishing anyone licking boots that had not been sterilized after exposure to the filth of our society. They even went on to recommend methods of sterilization.

Then a moment of beautiful and utter honesty - two posters exclaimed with no hesitation that it was indeed these very public realities which fueled their sense of total domination at licking the soles of their domme. Unexpected and complete, I see the same thing with safewords. There is and should be a modicum of risk in BDSM, but a completely safe, sterile environment is for Hillary and Osama to debate. I like a little grist in my mill, just like boot-lickers like a little sense of filth in the sole. This does't mean stupidity is acceptable, but pa-lease, don't take all the fun out of par-tay. The dance. It doesn't take too many steps to see if your mojo is harmonious or harmful.

cha cha cha.
 

Daymo

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The right partner

Tamp,

Well put dude. I love the dance metaphor. So fitting. When you find the right samba partner, you can ride the currents of exstatic bliss all night long.
cha cha cha.
Exactly. I have been playing for over 30 years and have had to use a safe word with only one partner, while She was learning the ropes. As a Dom I have never had my sub use a safe word. They are always there and discussed beforehand but I try to chose parters that I can read and can read me. This leads to a whole new level of intensity.

Daymo
 
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