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Logger333

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I've received 2 bbbj from 2 sp around 3-4 months ago(not at the same time). No DATY and very little intercourse with condom(was inside real quick). I never digit nor let the sp use a hand that touched herself touch mine. This was like i said about 3-4 months ago.

2 months ago, after condomless sex with my wife i noticed a small red mark on the head of my penis approx 1 day later. It was NOT bumpy or filled with any fluids. It was quite a small mark that was more noticable under certain lighting or angles. Although it looked like a small bump or change in the skin pattern, when i run my finger over it i could not really feel a difference. This was present for about 2 weeks. I did not have any pains or fevers but did notice on one of the days(when i was checking it 25 times a day if it got worst)a slight discomfort in my testicles, like a dull annoying feeling when i was sitting down. The other change i've noticed and still do is when i masturbate my penis gets a little red or hot after i finish and where the foreskin meets the tip(i'm circumsized)seems very sensitive or red immediately afterwards(no pain). The tip of my penis gets slightly red in spots sometimes but by the time check again it's gone. I also continously think something is wrong even though nothing else other than what i have written has happenned.

During that time and even now 2 months later, i kept reading about std's on the internet and i am very stressed and worried that i caught some std even though it has not reappeared. I think about it first thing when i wake up each morning and non stop throughout the day.

My question is, do you think my stress is causing many of the problems, other than the red mark appearing originally? I have never checked my penis more than i have in the last 60 days and take note of every little change. My hands are also getting really dry from all the handwashing i have done.

I did get a blood and urine test for std's last week but from what i read if sores are not present nothing can be detected accurately. Is this true?

So stressed.
 
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I`ve received 2 bbbj from 2 sp around 3-4 months ago(not at the same time). No DATY and very little intercourse with condom(was inside real quick). I never digit nor let the sp use a hand that touched herself touch mine. This was like i said about 3-4 months ago.

2 months ago, after condomless sex with my wife i noticed a small red mark on the head of my penis approx 1 day later. It was NOT bumpy or filled with any fluids. It was quite a small mark that was more noticable under certain lighting or angles. Although it looked like a small bump or change in the skin pattern, when i run my finger over it i could not really feel a difference. This was present for about 2 weeks. I did not have any pains or fevers but did notice on one of the days(when i was checking it 25 times a day if it got worst)a slight discomfort in my testicles, like a dull annoying feeling when i was sitting down. The other change i`ve noticed and still do is when i masturbate my penis gets a little red or hot after i finish and where the foreskin meets the tip(i`m circumsized)seems very sensitive or red immediately afterwards(no pain). The tip of my penis gets slightly red in spots sometimes but by the time check again it`s gone. I also continously think something is wrong even though nothing else other than what i have written has happenned.

During that time and even now 2 months later, i kept reading about std`s on the internet and i am very stressed and worried that i caught some std even though it has not reappeared. I think about it first thing when i wake up each morning and non stop throughout the day.

My question is, do you think my stress is causing many of the problems, other than the red mark appearing originally? I have never checked my penis more than i have in the last 60 days and take note of every little change. My hands are also getting really dry from all the handwashing i have done.

I did get a blood and urine test for std`s last week but from what i read if sores are not present nothing can be detected accurately. Is this true?

So stressed.



Hi logger333

It appears that this situation is really stressing you out and I have an idea of what you are going through as this is a common concern of men who have come to the clinic. I have seen people who are so stressed out that they are unable to go to work and it starts to affect their health.

It is really hard to diagnose conditions over the internet as we need to do a physical exam as well as look at the test results, but with the information you have provided I would not be overly concerned that you have a sexually transmitted infection, but since most sexually transmitted infection do not have symptoms testing is always a good idea.

Using a condom for intercourse will really protect you against HIV. A BBBJ can put you at risk for infections like gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis and herpes. As you had sex 3-4 months ago the tests you did would be very accurate just make sure they did a test for gonorrhea, chalmydia, syphilis, HIV and hepatitis B (if you have not been vaccinated).

You are correct in that for herpes it is best to do a test from the actual sore, but for syphilis a negative blood test at 3 months is the most accurate.

I do believe that stress could be causing most of your symptoms. I have seen it so many times were someone is constantly examining their genitals or washing them. This causes irritation of the genitals and will make you worry more. Also it is normal for the body to have little aches and pains. Pimples and bruises can come and go. If you are not worried about a situation you don’t even notice this, but if something has happened these small things can cause huge anxiety.

In summary I would recommend this to you and anyone else with a similar experience.

(1) Get testing done and believe the results.
Here is a link about getting tested
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=41576

(2) It really helps to talk to someone. As this is the one thing you may be unable to talk about with friends, family, partner etc (your support network) seeing a counselor or coming to the clinic can help.
Here is a link to a local sex therapist Dr David McKenzie were he talked about this exact situation.
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=61731

(3) Get your stress levels down.
This is a very individual thing and people have different ways of doing this e.g. walking, breathing techniques etc...

(4) Don’t be too hard on your self, like Dr David McKenzie states.

“Guilt is like pain…it is meant to tell you something is wrong … get your hand off the red hot stove before you lose it. Guilt is intended only to point you in the right direction so that you can make the necessary changes. It is not meant to become a way of life where you are forever defined by remorse over actions frozen in time.”


Does this answer your questions?

You can also send me a PM if you have more personal questions.

Please feel free to comment or ask us to expand on a topic. Remember if you would like to ask me a personal question just send me a PM.

HN
www.stdresource.com
 
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