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Requesting A Partner to Get Tested...

Is it unreasonable to request a person be tested?

  • Yes

    Votes: 2 10.0%
  • No

    Votes: 18 90.0%

  • Total voters
    20

james29

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Jun 21, 2005
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Not really related to hobbyists and SP's, but I was curious what everyone's opinion was on this subject.

My partner and I have been trying online dating. We met online and we discussed the idea of getting tested. So we both went out to get tested before we even met. On our first "date" we exchanged our results as an icebreaker, along with drivers licenses just to prove neither of us were flakes or trying to hide anything. It seemed "normal" for us, as two strangers, to get tested before becoming intimate.

Now we're looking to add a third person for some erotic encounters. We've been communicating with several people online, but one in particular and things were going great. We exchanged pics (some explicit) and shared our fantasies in great detail. She was all for getting together with us and we started making plans for a future weekend together. Then we brought up that we were both tested and asked if she was recently or if she would mind getting tested to ease any concerns we may have.

Well, we get a nasty e-mail saying she was "insulted" that we would make such a request and she was upset we didn't trust her. She wants nothing to do with us.

So, do you think her reaction was legitimate in this day & age? Or is she hiding something.
 

nergizerbunie

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Nov 1, 2006
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behind the perogy curtain
Her reaction would definately raise a few hairs on my neck. In todays day and age your request is both logical and necessary. If you want to bring someone into your relationship, you don't want to be hurt either emotionally or physically. Some of us can look past all the emotional stuff, but if you catch something, it could ruin both of your lives forever.

Listen to that little voice in your head, if the red flags go up, there is DEFINATELY a good reason why.
 

TheRater

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Jun 1, 2005
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Run away. Fast. Change your e-mail address. Get facial reconstruction surgery.

While the above all is somewhat joking, anyone, pro or civilian, who engages in ANY kind of sexual activity without all partners getting tested first is playing russian roulette. Anyone who does so is about as stupid as it is possible to be on this planet where "product safety laws" are the norm. To bad there is not a tattoo or stamp or something you can get to show that you have been recently tested.

- TR
 

james29

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Jun 21, 2005
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I think that it is a great and very reasonable idea to ask her to be tested!! I would do the same thing. Her reaction though.........hmm, no good. It is really wierd that she became defensive like she did because "why wouldnt she want to get tested"? I get tested on a regular basis just to make sure that I am good to go!!! it helps ease the mind!!!! especially if you are wanteing to engage in some very "personal" activities, you wanna make sure that this woman is clean.It make the experience 10X better knowing that you are dealing with a disease free, and virus free woman!!!! You can umm....explore every part of the body. Mmm. I would tell here to take a walk as well!!!
Exactly what we were thinking. We discussed some intimate details of what our encounter would be like and they involved several very personal activities. I can't believe someone would want to take part in such activities with another peron who wasn't tested.
 
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