I have a trusted friend whose girlfriend is in the business. He just helps her manage her finances; she keeps all the money, but needs help with her extensive credit commitments. IOW, she has a healthy slot machine and spending appetite, but needed someone to keep track of and get her taxes and bills paid on time.
He's been doing this for quite a few years now, and yes, they live and sleep together. They have a "trust" agreement which commits both parties to practice safe sex outside of their relationship. Fair enough. On a recent occasion, he came in to their condo, and she was in session with a client. He didn't know this at the time, but heard shower noises, so he gingerly looked carefully around the open bathroom door. They didn't see him, and he was going to back away and leave, but what he saw reflected in the mirror shook him. His SO was giving this old guy a BBBJ followed by his uncovered DATY, and other risky behaviour.
He confronted her when he returned later, and she vehemently denied the whole thing. She went off the deep end when he related accurate details of what he saw. She then did an about face, and began over-exaggerating and claiming that she did this with everybody, and that's what customers wanted nowadays. Needless to say, the relationship is heading south, and is now on thin ice.
Right now, he's only told her that this must stop immediately. I didn't know what to tell him at first, but did relate my own pooning experiences, where at times the fury of the experience led one to consider throwing caution to the wind, "especially" in attended showers. Through persistent prodding some ladies will let down their guard, and submit to riskier activities. He followed my advice, and asked her to avoid showers of this nature, to which she agreed, and get herself tested. Many discussions will follow, I'm sure. However, how can he be certain of her compliance when the trust has already been broken?
This creates a paradoxical situation where trust needs to be rebuilt on top of a very shaky foundation. I'm sure this situation is probably more common that many would care to admit, but it needs to be addressed in the interest of public safety. What do you guys think?
I'm putting this out for an intelligent discussion, so put some thought into your responses, and avoid wisecracks.
He's been doing this for quite a few years now, and yes, they live and sleep together. They have a "trust" agreement which commits both parties to practice safe sex outside of their relationship. Fair enough. On a recent occasion, he came in to their condo, and she was in session with a client. He didn't know this at the time, but heard shower noises, so he gingerly looked carefully around the open bathroom door. They didn't see him, and he was going to back away and leave, but what he saw reflected in the mirror shook him. His SO was giving this old guy a BBBJ followed by his uncovered DATY, and other risky behaviour.
He confronted her when he returned later, and she vehemently denied the whole thing. She went off the deep end when he related accurate details of what he saw. She then did an about face, and began over-exaggerating and claiming that she did this with everybody, and that's what customers wanted nowadays. Needless to say, the relationship is heading south, and is now on thin ice.
Right now, he's only told her that this must stop immediately. I didn't know what to tell him at first, but did relate my own pooning experiences, where at times the fury of the experience led one to consider throwing caution to the wind, "especially" in attended showers. Through persistent prodding some ladies will let down their guard, and submit to riskier activities. He followed my advice, and asked her to avoid showers of this nature, to which she agreed, and get herself tested. Many discussions will follow, I'm sure. However, how can he be certain of her compliance when the trust has already been broken?
This creates a paradoxical situation where trust needs to be rebuilt on top of a very shaky foundation. I'm sure this situation is probably more common that many would care to admit, but it needs to be addressed in the interest of public safety. What do you guys think?
I'm putting this out for an intelligent discussion, so put some thought into your responses, and avoid wisecracks.