Why White Men Prefer Asian Women

georgebushmoron

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Here is an interesting article. I find a fair bit of it quite stupid, however, there is truth that a growing minority of white men are preferring asian women.

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/555526/posts

I have copied the whole stupid thing and pasted it here. Is it worthy of discussion?

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There is near me an Asian sushi-beer-and-dinner establishment that I´ll call the Asia Spot. The region is urban, so the clientele is a mix of some of just about everything, but the waitresses are all Asian, principally Japanese, Indonesian, Vietnamese, and Thai. The Spot is a neighborhood bar. A large after-work crowd, many of them regulars, gather at happy hour. The social dynamics are curious. It would be an exaggeration to say, as someone did, that the black guys come to pick up white women, and the white men come to get away from them – but it would be an exaggeration of an underlying truth. The waitresses are a large part of the Spot´s appeal.

A common subject of conversation among male customers is how very attractive these women are when compared to American women. It is not a thought safe to utter in mixed company. It is a very common thought. American women know it.

Why are the Asians attractive? What, to huge numbers of men, makes almost any Asian more appealing than almost any American? The question is much discussed by men at the Spot. (I should say here that when I say “women,” I mean the majority of women, the mainstream, the center of gravity. Yes, there are exceptions and degrees.)

American women of my acquaintance offer several explanations, all of them wrong. For example, they say that Asian women are sexually easy. No. American women are sexually easy. The waitresses at the Spot are not available. They date, but they cannot be picked up.

Another explanation popular among American women is that men want submissive women, which Asians are believed to be. Again, no. For one thing, submissive people are bland and boring. In any event the waitresses aren´t submissive. Many compete successfully in tough professions. Among Asian waitresses I know I count an electrical engineer who does wide-area networks, and a woman with a masters in biochemistry who, upon finding that research required a Ph.D and didn´t pay, went back to school and became a dentist. Both of these wait tables to help out in the family restaurant.

At the Spot I know a woman waitressing her way through a degree in computer security, a bright Japanese college graduate making a career in the restaurant business, and the manager of the Spot – not a light-weight job. Submissiveness has nothing to do with their attractiveness.

Why, then, are they so very appealing?

To begin with, look at the American women in the Spot. Perhaps a third of them are stylishly dressed. The rest of the gringas run from undistinguished to dumpster-casual: baggy jeans, oversize shirts -- often male shirts -- with the tails out. They seem to affect a sort of homeless chic, actually to want to look bad, and do it with more than a touch of androgyny. A high proportion are at least somewhat overweight. (So are the men, but that´s another subject.) The Asians, without exception, are sleek, well-groomed, and dressed with an understated sexiness that never pushes trashy.

Further, the Asians are what were once called “ladies,” a thought repellant to feminists but very so refreshing to men. Listen to the American women at neighboring tables, and you will frequently hear phrases like, “He´s a f---ing piece of shit.” In what appears to be a determined attempt to be men, they have adopted the mode of discourse of a male locker room and made it their normal language. The Asians, classier, better students of men, do not have foul mouths. They presumably know about body parts and bathroom functions, but do not believe that a woman raises her stature by referring to them constantly in mixed company.

Men at the Spot, I have noticed, instantly understand that colloquial commentary is not wanted, and don´t engage in it: In the presence of the civilized, men adopt the standards of civilization. Men also tend to think of women as women think of themselves. The Asians, without displaying vanity, clearly think well of themselves. And ought to.

All in all, they give the impression that they do not want to be one of the guys. They want to be one of the girls. Here we come to the core of their appeal. Let me elaborate.

The default position of American women is what men refer to as “the chip,” a veiled truculence, mixed with a not-very-veiled hostility toward men and a shaky sense of sexual identity. The result is a touchiness reminiscent of hungover ferrets. There is a bandsaw edge to them, a watching for any slight so that they can show that they aren´t going to take it. They are poised to lash out in aggressive defense of their manhood.

As best as I can tell, they don´t like being women. Here is the entire problem in five words.

The Asians at the Spot show every indication that they do like being women. They do not seem to have anything to prove. Being happy with what they are allows them to be comfortable with what they are not – men. They are not competing to be what they can´t be with people who can´t be anything else. They don´t have to establish their masculinity because they don´t want it. They do not assume, as American women tend to, that femaleness is a diseased condition to be treated by male clothes, gutter language, and bad temper.

I´ve spent many dozens of hours chatting with the gals at the Spot, and never seen a sign of the chip. For a man, the experience is wonderful beyond description – smart, pretty, classy women, who are women, and are not the enemy. As long as American women carry the chip, the Asian gals will eat them alive in the dating market.

Note that the espousal of hostile obnoxiousness as a guiding philosophy appears to be an almost uniquely American horror. It certainly isn´t requisite to independence or self-respect. I recently met a quite attractive blonde who, among other things, was smart, a long-haul motorcyclist, a student of the martial arts out of sheer athletic enjoyment of it, and an excellent marksman. She was also heterosexual, feminine, delightful company, and had no trace of “the chip.” I was astonished. How was this possible, I wondered?

She was Canadian.</div>
 

tianna

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that hurt to try and read.. u might want to change the font .. :)
 

twoblues

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Personally, I guess I cannot be grouped into that category. I have only been with a couple of Asian ladies when I was in my early twenties at a massage place in Richmond.

To be crass, I like boobs and ass too much and I've rarely found an Asian girl with a nice round ass and big breasts who wasn't overweight. I know, I know, probably an ignorant comment :eek:
 

alyb

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ummm...

funny. you can go to asian men and ask them the same question. i was the only white girl working at an asian restaurant, and the asian guys were all over me.

well, had a nice discussion with one of them, and here's why... DUH. We look "different and exotic" to them, just as asians look different and exotic to north american white men.

While they've all mostly got dark hair, dark eyes, many similar features, we've got light brown hair, blonde hair, blue eyes, green eyes, different shades to our nipples, etc....

this isnt really all that hard to figure out.
 

Avery

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funny. you can go to asian men and ask them the same question. i was the only white girl working at an asian restaurant, and the asian guys were all over me.

well, had a nice discussion with one of them, and here's why... DUH. We look "different and exotic" to them, just as asians look different and exotic to north american white men.

While they've all mostly got dark hair, dark eyes, many similar features, we've got light brown hair, blonde hair, blue eyes, green eyes, different shades to our nipples, etc....

this isnt really all that hard to figure out.
Exactly! If you go to the bars in Beijing where working girls hang out, like the Hard Rock Cafe, you'll see all the visiting Caucasian men picking up Chinese and Mongolian SPs. The Chinese men are picking up visiting Russian, Ukrainian and Kazakh SPs, especially blondes. The grass is always greener...
 

CitySlicker

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mmmmmm.....so true....

As an Canadian born Chinese....I prefer Caucasian....Why?....you all wonder..Asian girls are like star fish...they just lay there and not move...boring....///////Tianna...here I come.....
 

georgebushmoron

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To be crass, I like boobs and ass too much and I've rarely found an Asian girl with a nice round ass and big breasts who wasn't overweight. I know, I know, probably an ignorant comment :eek:
Nope, that's not ignorant. It's not racist either. It's genetics, and it is true that the majority (not all) asian women are small breasted compared to others, and their butts lie flatter. Conversely, the majority of black women (in the US) have more protruding butts, aboriginal women have wider pelvises, caucasian women have thinner lips, etc. Equality does not mean a measure for measure physical equality (which is an immature way of looking at equality, but many think this way), but a recognition of differences and the whole-hearted acceptance of them.
 

LaCreme

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[QUOTE=georgebushmoron;620098
the next tread would be why big dick prefer a nice butt like jlo.
 

wilde

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wilde

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Want me to ask some of them what bars you should go to so you can meet up with them?
I see you are your usual obnoxious self. Instead of acknowledging your error you chose the put down routine again.:( Hopeless.

On second thought, at least you didn't mention the lefties.

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LonelyGhost

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I have never heard anyone ever talk about , Brazilians, South Americans, Jamaicans, Hasains, Africans,...........................!!!!

You wanna see Exotic, PFFFFT.......there ya go. I myslef am Brazilian , English, and Hasian, and I have taken it upon myself to mention, What I THINK is exotic. I guess everyone is Exotic in their own way! hmm...................

I have noticed that out here in Vancouver, there is only certain men who will go for a girl who has color in them. In my eyes, men dont really know what they are missing. I think that they are scared of change.


I wanted to get my hair done in lond micro braids, but I am scared that ummm I might look toooooooooooo Island!!!
i love women of every colour, nationality or whatever you want to use
to describe yourself!!! the more diversity the better! you want
braids, dreads, beads, or go bald and I'm still there!

maybe some guys don't want 'exotic' but i love it and go out of my
way to find it! african, asian, east indian, middle eastern are all
hot in my books!!!!
 

alyb

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lonely ghost...

there, a true lover of all the ladies.

btw...we're all exotic to someone... ;)
 

maxx50

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I am attracted to Asian. girls also

Yes I find Asian blacks.. and many mixed race . women very attractive .. true not all .. but it is their eyes .. the small breasts.. and small frame.. that I find.. very appealing....I see there beauty a lot differently also I think there attitude is different then, many white. girls..
But I have only seen one escort that was Asian .I am hoping to see some more
I could not read that article .. with the yellow back ground.. sorry GBM.
 

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It's because every white guy wants cauc..in thier asian. I kid I kid.

I know many asian girls who only date white guys. Thier main complaint is that caucasian guys treat them like how they are stereotyped. i.e. submissive, quiet etc. Another complaint is that they have no attention span when it comes to asian traditions and cultures, in which the girl and thier family highly regard.

Funny though..there's been a shift in asian girls only wanting to date caucasian men. I asked my friends who only date caucasian guy and they all say they don't want to date thier brother/father.

Maybe it's because on every TV show, magazine cover...every media outlet...it's a causasian girl. Rarely will you see an asian girl. Maybe people are just use to caucasian girls and not asian girls so they find them more mysterious and exotic?
 

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Race / color has no bearing on it for me.

I have had some pretty good asian, african AND caucasion lays.
 

Sonny

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I confess to a decided bias, a major prejudice. I love all women. Much more than men.
 

visioneast

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Given that a large number of caucasian guys prefer asian MEN, I don't find it all that surprising that some caucasian guys prefer asian women.
I know what you prefer. You prefer sheeps. :)
 

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Dont know about the scene in BC but down here when I go out I'm seeing more and more Asian dating Asian. Everything goes in cycles I guess.
 

georgebushmoron

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Dont know about the scene in BC but down here when I go out I'm seeing more and more Asian dating Asian. Everything goes in cycles I guess.
I think it's all cultural. Those who are comfortable with their own ethnicity, or those who take great pride in their own, are most likely to date people from their own ethnic group. Those who reject their own as somehow inferior or deficient, will date from other ethnic groups. Case in point with many Japanese, who for some reason see themselves as inferior to Caucasians. Many (but still a minority) Japanese girls hate their own culture and worship just about any Caucasian guy that crosses their path. Many Japanese men (but still a minority) are obsessed with blonde women. I don't think that it's a simple matter of curiosity of what they are not, nor is it the exotification of the "other". It has more to do with how they feel about their own identity as expressed by ethnicity, and the potential mate is a projection of their feelings about themselves. Conversely, many Japanese (but not all) think Westerners are brutish hairy barbarians and are thus unlikely to be attracted to them.
 

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I can't agree with too much in that article.

Myself I love hot women of any race, but I have a major case of yellow fever that I can't shake.

There are both physical and personality attractants. That article doesn't seem to cover any of the physical attraction, which honestly is the majority of the attraction for me, at least until you get to know them. I mean a banana will turn me on just as much as a fob. For me I am also attracted to certain asian races much more than others due to physical characteristics (Japanese/Chinese types do it for me, Filipina generally don't - it's the eyes that are different).

Personality is mostly driven by culture. I've known a fair amount of Japanese women and they are almost all stamped from the same mold. Ultra cute innocent unassuming personalities. The one thing about the article that is perhaps right is they do act like women without all the feminism man hating crap influencing them. I really do go for the Japanese personality. On the other hand women from China can vary quite a bit in personality depending on what region they are from. Honestly I can't stand the personality of some of them. But I'd still love to fuck them silly - just not marry them.
 
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