The thread asking about Craigslist responses inspired me to write here about what catches my eyes and interest while browsing the many duplicated ads on Craigslist.
This, hopefully for the benefit of SP's who are constructing ads there in the near future.
A - Put your age so that it lands, accurately, in the ad heading. Do it for yourself and for your potential clients. (there are millions of women out there - channel only those who could possibly be interested in YOU, your way)
B - Say something unique and substantial in your ad heading. Go to your old high school classmate who was great with the language for suggestions if you have to - do NOT make yourself seem clueless before potential clients even open your ad. (Again, figure out what others have indicated was your major appeal or selling-point and broadcast it with that one line - it doesn't have to be physical at all, it might be your personable charm. Spell it out and then just beeeeeeeee the person your ad inspires them to expect.)
So much of this is about doing your best to coerce the male mind to *expect* just the person you are likely to be, or at least seem, once he visits you. This underscores how pointless it is to suggest that you're waif-thin when you have enjoyable, snuggleable feminine curves about you. Nothing works against you more than to have misrepresented yourself in any way. PERB reviews, among other things, will sit there forever and always and it isn't your measurements which will be critiqued, it will be your new reputation for being deceptive. It is so much more productive to present your entire self as you are, and to weed-out immediately the guys who want somebody else's measurements, or hair color, or level on the frat-boy rating scale (some of those "10's" aren't blessed with the personalities I most enjoy - because society lets them get away with not needing them).
IF your appeal is significantly your personality, then the audience to which you shall appeal most IS just the subset of Craigslist viewers who will read more of the average ad. So take the ball and run with it that way.
(if you're 19, without too much depth, but truly stunning physically, then present yourself with great photos and just the contact, rate, restriction details and little else - the pictures will sell you)
C - Put a photo in your ad... even if it is merely the sunset outside your back door, it will still inspire many people to bother to open your ad when they wouldn't have otherwise. (we use the CL "search" capabilities to narrow the age range and often mark "only show ads with photos") (the only people who can get away for very long without a photo are those who really are "non-pro's" who are "just doing this to pay the rent this month" etc. - we understand why they don't want everyone knowing their identity and their business)
IF you are putting pictures of yourself in your ad for the purposes of enticing could-be clients, DO NOT settle for anything in the way of poor picture quality! Even if you're particularly stunning to look at, the poor picture quality raises questions as to how sincere you are about the upcoming business arrangements. In many ways we can barely believe that we might get to make nice with such attractive women, but we really can't believe that such attractive women would allow their portraits to show them in an unflattering light.
D - Always spell-out your rates, availability, and restrictions clearly in your ad. If for no other reason than to give yourself a clear means of separating the decent men from those you might prefer not to be with, when they call up asking for what was clearly explained in your ad. (** not that the most terrible clients couldn't be among the most literate and proper... but they are aware of the "computer fingerprints" they've created too)
E - If you have offered the above-mentioned helpful additions to your ad, then I am most likely going to click on your ad. It is at this point that it would be very helpful to see some of your personality shine through via the written word. Don't need several paragraphs about you, but it would be great if you would again emphasize the positives, and highlight the elements of time spent with you which other clients seem to enjoy most.
Much of the allure of Craigslist is that it assures us that very real, everyday women are quite interested and willing to have sex with us for pay. We love the arena where in we get to sort through many suitable candidates availing themselves for our perusal. Our minds are going a hundred miles a minute here, and it cannot be that difficult to woo us into selecting YOUR ad to follow-up with inquiries or appointments.
Your ad is an extension of your personality, and in a way it is like the high school yearbook with your photo and a (handwritten) paragraph you share which almost touches us personally each time we read it.
I do get tired of the many-times-repeated ads, under different headings, all bunched up at Craigslist during a 15-minute period. No short ad headings, and be unique there...
"Presenting yourself" is about two things:
"Presentation" and "You"
don't skimp on either element and you'll get far more of the useful Craigslist responses and fewer of the idiotic ones.
I intended and hope that this will be helpful to sincere SP's using Craigslist soon.
This, hopefully for the benefit of SP's who are constructing ads there in the near future.
A - Put your age so that it lands, accurately, in the ad heading. Do it for yourself and for your potential clients. (there are millions of women out there - channel only those who could possibly be interested in YOU, your way)
B - Say something unique and substantial in your ad heading. Go to your old high school classmate who was great with the language for suggestions if you have to - do NOT make yourself seem clueless before potential clients even open your ad. (Again, figure out what others have indicated was your major appeal or selling-point and broadcast it with that one line - it doesn't have to be physical at all, it might be your personable charm. Spell it out and then just beeeeeeeee the person your ad inspires them to expect.)
So much of this is about doing your best to coerce the male mind to *expect* just the person you are likely to be, or at least seem, once he visits you. This underscores how pointless it is to suggest that you're waif-thin when you have enjoyable, snuggleable feminine curves about you. Nothing works against you more than to have misrepresented yourself in any way. PERB reviews, among other things, will sit there forever and always and it isn't your measurements which will be critiqued, it will be your new reputation for being deceptive. It is so much more productive to present your entire self as you are, and to weed-out immediately the guys who want somebody else's measurements, or hair color, or level on the frat-boy rating scale (some of those "10's" aren't blessed with the personalities I most enjoy - because society lets them get away with not needing them).
IF your appeal is significantly your personality, then the audience to which you shall appeal most IS just the subset of Craigslist viewers who will read more of the average ad. So take the ball and run with it that way.
(if you're 19, without too much depth, but truly stunning physically, then present yourself with great photos and just the contact, rate, restriction details and little else - the pictures will sell you)
C - Put a photo in your ad... even if it is merely the sunset outside your back door, it will still inspire many people to bother to open your ad when they wouldn't have otherwise. (we use the CL "search" capabilities to narrow the age range and often mark "only show ads with photos") (the only people who can get away for very long without a photo are those who really are "non-pro's" who are "just doing this to pay the rent this month" etc. - we understand why they don't want everyone knowing their identity and their business)
IF you are putting pictures of yourself in your ad for the purposes of enticing could-be clients, DO NOT settle for anything in the way of poor picture quality! Even if you're particularly stunning to look at, the poor picture quality raises questions as to how sincere you are about the upcoming business arrangements. In many ways we can barely believe that we might get to make nice with such attractive women, but we really can't believe that such attractive women would allow their portraits to show them in an unflattering light.
D - Always spell-out your rates, availability, and restrictions clearly in your ad. If for no other reason than to give yourself a clear means of separating the decent men from those you might prefer not to be with, when they call up asking for what was clearly explained in your ad. (** not that the most terrible clients couldn't be among the most literate and proper... but they are aware of the "computer fingerprints" they've created too)
E - If you have offered the above-mentioned helpful additions to your ad, then I am most likely going to click on your ad. It is at this point that it would be very helpful to see some of your personality shine through via the written word. Don't need several paragraphs about you, but it would be great if you would again emphasize the positives, and highlight the elements of time spent with you which other clients seem to enjoy most.
Much of the allure of Craigslist is that it assures us that very real, everyday women are quite interested and willing to have sex with us for pay. We love the arena where in we get to sort through many suitable candidates availing themselves for our perusal. Our minds are going a hundred miles a minute here, and it cannot be that difficult to woo us into selecting YOUR ad to follow-up with inquiries or appointments.
Your ad is an extension of your personality, and in a way it is like the high school yearbook with your photo and a (handwritten) paragraph you share which almost touches us personally each time we read it.
I do get tired of the many-times-repeated ads, under different headings, all bunched up at Craigslist during a 15-minute period. No short ad headings, and be unique there...
"Presenting yourself" is about two things:
"Presentation" and "You"
don't skimp on either element and you'll get far more of the useful Craigslist responses and fewer of the idiotic ones.
I intended and hope that this will be helpful to sincere SP's using Craigslist soon.