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edmontonsubbie

Edmontonsubbie
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uh...Edmonton.
...or worse, have you ever been the victim of the "unfair" fight?

A little background....married this wicked cool chick...second wife thing...duh me. But, she was amazing...cute, sexy, smart, my best friend kinda thing. We would shoot pool at the pub and the winner got choice of Top or bottom for the rest of the night....or some other silly bet. She was a great Top so even when she lost she invented a win.

Anyway, she was also incredibly jealous. At first, I found this flattering because she was way hotter than I...but...it became oppressive. But, I loved her and worked it out as best I could. I would never watch a tv show with attractive women....that was always a trick....I just gave up on tv...no real loss. Walking down the street...would never look at an oncoming chick....not too hard really...and I only had eyes for her anyway...so easy peasy.

The real issues erupted when she became jealous of the affections that my daughters held for me and vice versa....I was...wtf???....that was a constant thorn....then came her need to be out gambling at the casino....totally destructive....and so...it had to come to an end. I left once....went back once....finally left for good. I still loved her very much and so it was not easy to walk away from the one that I loved.

To the point. My ex wife (kids mom)....a few friends....and my current employer at the time...begin to recieve emails from her....detailing very intimate secrets straight off the pillow. All the little games we had played....and, i'll admit it, I'm no saint...but...omg. That was some pretty private shit.

I was humiliated, angry, and slightly devastated. I found new employment, shortened my "friends" list, and never bothered to explain much to the ex...we are on good terms as we share parenting of two wonderful children....although the mother in law now looks like me as though I am from the moon and won't speak directly...but...who cares on that one.

This was three years ago....I had never encountered someone who fought like this before....and I surely hope to never do so again.

I've noticed more than a wee bit of hesitancy on "opening up" as a result of this. I guess time is doing it's trick though.....I just wish the freaking rain would stop so I could get back to work!....well....I think it's stopped now....but...it's gonna be muddy so I'll be lazy and take this day off. And...I know you care....

eddie.
 

Miss Laura Lea

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I have had people fight REALLY dirty with me. Not really into getting into much detail. Personally, I dont have the guts to fight dirty... burning bridges is not my style, and the last thing I want to be known as is the girl who'll fuck you up if you piss her off.
There are other ways
 

alyb

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Hmmm...

First let me say that jealousy is a sign of insecurity, and sometimes the "pretty girls" get it the worst in this department because society has a way of making even the good looking ones feel not quite good enough....

there's always more surgery, always implants, always more expensive make up, more sessions with a personal trainer, more tanning, more everything.... so i mean... you did a noble thing by filtering out a lot of crap tv, but that probably exa****ated the problem a little more for her, because now it was fueling the fire if you know what i mean....

with that being said, i'm really sorry that it happened to you. fighting unfair, and living insecure with a relationship is a not a nice way to live. the jealousy with your daughters completely blew me off track, but it was probably more of a jealousy that she wasn't the mom, more than the actual relationship itself...

family comes first and foremost, take care of your kids, love life, and try to stay the heck away from women like that in the future. we're not all bad i swear....

XOXO Aly in Regina
 

jjinvan

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Hahahahahahah.

I want to be known as that girl. :p
You're definately on my list of top 10 girls I'd never want pissed off at me enough to fight dirty.

and I haven't even met you! :eek:

Top on that list is Hillary Clinton... she is one scary mofo!
 

Thelyhi

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Up your V
It was on the news a few months back somewhere in the US. This guy cheated on the gal and she got revenge.She paid to advertise her ex's faults(physical,financial and private) on a giant billboard on a major road,with his phone number too.
The most hated guy in the state.

Only in America.
 

edmontonsubbie

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uh...Edmonton.
First let me say that jealousy is a sign of insecurity, and sometimes the "pretty girls" get it the worst in this department because society has a way of making even the good looking ones feel not quite good enough....

there's always more surgery, always implants, always more expensive make up, more sessions with a personal trainer, more tanning, more everything.... so i mean... you did a noble thing by filtering out a lot of crap tv, but that probably exa****ated the problem a little more for her, because now it was fueling the fire if you know what i mean....

with that being said, i'm really sorry that it happened to you. fighting unfair, and living insecure with a relationship is a not a nice way to live. the jealousy with your daughters completely blew me off track, but it was probably more of a jealousy that she wasn't the mom, more than the actual relationship itself...

family comes first and foremost, take care of your kids, love life, and try to stay the heck away from women like that in the future. we're not all bad i swear....

XOXO Aly in Regina
some cool thoughts up there...i picked this one out only as I agree completely that it's not a "gender" based thing...I've met some real insecure guys who do irrational things also...but...who cares...I guess it's life.

Point of this reply is to give a wee welcome to alyb who seems new to this board but every post of hers that I've stumbled across is well thought out and seems carefully considered....so, a cool addition.

Good luck with it all alyb....this is an excellent tool to do some filtering....at least...i think it must be. Spend the $150 for three months....set up a photobucket...and go red!....i see most of the sp's in red staying that way...so it likely works ....and this seems extremely cost effective advertising. And, no, i don't get a referral fee....dammit....mumbles.
 

Saraphina

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Actually I don't really see the fight Eddie or an issue of fighting fair. What I see is you getting mixed up with a manipulative, vindictive b**ch, doing what manipulative vindictive b**ches do. If vindictive manipulative b**ches, didn't make such fantastic tops (and with a name like edmontonsubbie, I would hazard to guess having a top is important to you), I would suggest figuring out how to recognize such creatures and staying well clear.
 

kalel

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"My instinct was to win, eliminate anyone who is in my competition, destroy my enemy, and move on without any kind of hesitation at all"
- arnold schwarzenegger

and i play to win.
 

edmontonsubbie

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uh...Edmonton.
"My instinct was to win, eliminate anyone who is in my competition, destroy my enemy, and move on without any kind of hesitation at all"
- arnold schwarzenegger

and i play to win.
I used to do exactly that....but, with every winner comes a loser. As days go by....I find the need to ensure that I and...I alone...am happy. That surely means I need give up on the odd point. That's just being graceful.
 

edmontonsubbie

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uh...Edmonton.
Actually I don't really see the fight Eddie or an issue of fighting fair. What I see is you getting mixed up with a manipulative, vindictive b**ch, doing what manipulative vindictive b**ches do. If vindictive manipulative b**ches, didn't make such fantastic tops (and with a name like edmontonsubbie, I would hazard to guess having a top is important to you), I would suggest figuring out how to recognize such creatures and staying well clear.
no fight at all from my side....I was just stunned by the reaction is all. She was and is cool....so my ability to pick off that sort of reaction is still kinda iffy. Do I regret having met her? Not for a heartbeat.

I hand over control only to those I trust completely...that means competence and intelligence and all the things that go into that sort of thing. She had and has all that. What surprised me was the reaction on termination. That was just nasty...but....c'est la vie.

It's like a Myer's/Briggs test really....the best spot to be...is right in the middle....at least that was my interpretation of all that. I have a subbie side....I have a Dom side....and I live competently in a vanilla world. I guess I'm pretty fucked up...but I do love this life...and I'm sorry to have dissed her actually....there's always three sides to any story....her's...mine...and the truth.

sorry for rambling.

eddie.
 
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