So I ended my "relationship" with my regular SP today.
Feel both a little sad, and alot relieved.
Here's the backgrounder....
I saw her for the first time back in December of 2004. We connected immediately. Great personal chemistry. Great sex. She was working for an agency at the time, and I saw her a couple times more before she gave me her personal phone number. After that, she insisted that I call her directly and she'd see me for outcalls at home.
But thats where the difficulty began. When she was working incalls at the agency, everything was fine. But when seeing her privately, she was *ALWAYS* late, and extremely unreliable.
How unreliable?
Well, out of every 3 dates:
Now, I never had a problem with late appointments, or rescheduled appointments, as long as she called and kept me informed. It's the real world, shit happens, sometimes you just can't make things work. But it drove me nuts would she would no-show with no explanation, or when she was late, and she wasn't picking up the phone when I called to ask if there was a problem.
Setting up a date was always a chore. I'd call her and leave her messages repeatedly, often for a week or two before she finally replied to confirm a date.
A couple of weeks ago, after repeated messages and no replies, I managed to catch her on the phone, and she gave me her latest tale of personal crisis. She's always in a crisis of some kind. I don't think she was lying, or trying to be a drama queen. She's horribly disorganized, so the perpetual state of crisis is entirely possible and probable.
But not 5 minutes into the conversation, she tells me "Can I call you back in 10 minutes?" and then she hangs up.
Uh-huh...
I've heard those words from her probably 200 times in the last 2 years, she's actually called back 2, maybe 3 times.
Today, same thing happened. I called her, caught her live, and the first words from her were.
"Can I call you back? I'll call you *RIGHT* back." Click.
Waited all day. No call back. Nothing.
And that was it. I'd had enough.
I really liked her. I always gave her the benefit of the doubt. And I always treated her well, better than I ever treated my last girlfriend, in fact.
Truth be told, I had real feelings for this girl. Every time she told me about her latest crisis, I'd offer to help. I offered do anything within my means to help her, and I never expected anything in return. I did, in fact, loan her money just 6 months ago, and to her credit, she did pay me back in full.
But I've had enough of the waste-of-time stuff. The repeated calls with no reply. The "I'll call you back" stuff where she almost never would.
We've had a good "relationship" for the last 2 years. I saw very few other girls during this time, only after I'd tried calling her for weeks, and not gotten a response.
But it's done now. So here I am, feeling sad, but also feeling at peace. It feels kinda like the feeling of ending a poisonous relationship.
Why am I rambling about this? I dunno. I guess I just had to get it off my chest.
So here's a question for the Perbites and Perbettes:
If you have a regular SP (for the girls, if you have a regular client), how long should it take to respond to a request for a date? A couple of days? A week?
I realize that this business is filled with no-shows and late appointments (on both sides), but if you have a "regular arrangement", would you not expect a reasonable turn around time?
If a regular calls an SP, and the SP knows she's going to be unavailable for a few weeks (because she's booked up, or expects to be going out of town for a while), is it too much to expect a reply to the regular, informing him that you're going to be unavailable for the next couple of weeks?
Feel both a little sad, and alot relieved.
Here's the backgrounder....
I saw her for the first time back in December of 2004. We connected immediately. Great personal chemistry. Great sex. She was working for an agency at the time, and I saw her a couple times more before she gave me her personal phone number. After that, she insisted that I call her directly and she'd see me for outcalls at home.
But thats where the difficulty began. When she was working incalls at the agency, everything was fine. But when seeing her privately, she was *ALWAYS* late, and extremely unreliable.
How unreliable?
Well, out of every 3 dates:
- all (and I mean *ALL*) would be late. 2 hours late was typical, 1 hour late was her personal best.
- 1 out of 3 would be rescheduled for another day, and this rescheduled date would very frequently be rescheduled yet again (sometimes 3-4 times more before we finally get together)
- 1 out of 3 would be a no-show with no explaination
Now, I never had a problem with late appointments, or rescheduled appointments, as long as she called and kept me informed. It's the real world, shit happens, sometimes you just can't make things work. But it drove me nuts would she would no-show with no explanation, or when she was late, and she wasn't picking up the phone when I called to ask if there was a problem.
Setting up a date was always a chore. I'd call her and leave her messages repeatedly, often for a week or two before she finally replied to confirm a date.
A couple of weeks ago, after repeated messages and no replies, I managed to catch her on the phone, and she gave me her latest tale of personal crisis. She's always in a crisis of some kind. I don't think she was lying, or trying to be a drama queen. She's horribly disorganized, so the perpetual state of crisis is entirely possible and probable.
But not 5 minutes into the conversation, she tells me "Can I call you back in 10 minutes?" and then she hangs up.
Uh-huh...
I've heard those words from her probably 200 times in the last 2 years, she's actually called back 2, maybe 3 times.
Today, same thing happened. I called her, caught her live, and the first words from her were.
"Can I call you back? I'll call you *RIGHT* back." Click.
Waited all day. No call back. Nothing.
And that was it. I'd had enough.
I really liked her. I always gave her the benefit of the doubt. And I always treated her well, better than I ever treated my last girlfriend, in fact.
Truth be told, I had real feelings for this girl. Every time she told me about her latest crisis, I'd offer to help. I offered do anything within my means to help her, and I never expected anything in return. I did, in fact, loan her money just 6 months ago, and to her credit, she did pay me back in full.
But I've had enough of the waste-of-time stuff. The repeated calls with no reply. The "I'll call you back" stuff where she almost never would.
We've had a good "relationship" for the last 2 years. I saw very few other girls during this time, only after I'd tried calling her for weeks, and not gotten a response.
But it's done now. So here I am, feeling sad, but also feeling at peace. It feels kinda like the feeling of ending a poisonous relationship.
Why am I rambling about this? I dunno. I guess I just had to get it off my chest.
So here's a question for the Perbites and Perbettes:
If you have a regular SP (for the girls, if you have a regular client), how long should it take to respond to a request for a date? A couple of days? A week?
I realize that this business is filled with no-shows and late appointments (on both sides), but if you have a "regular arrangement", would you not expect a reasonable turn around time?
If a regular calls an SP, and the SP knows she's going to be unavailable for a few weeks (because she's booked up, or expects to be going out of town for a while), is it too much to expect a reply to the regular, informing him that you're going to be unavailable for the next couple of weeks?