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Creating Pleasure from Pain

Skol

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Although the tv series KINK has been out for a few years now I have only seen two or three episodes because I never had cable.

Now I do.

Two weeks ago I watched a Vancouver episode which featured Pat Tucker aka badslavegrrl in a scene where she was being slowly whipped by a petite woman wearing a dark black hood which prevented her face from being seen.

The first scene sees badslavegrrl getting a warm up whipping while she is standing in the middle of a room, blind-folded, her hands linked by chains to the walls on either side. The soft thrash of the whip can be heard on her back and ass as the warm up continues.

There is a cut to some other stuff and then the second scene with badslavegrrl and her mistress comes on. Things have been progressing quite nicely and badslavegrrl is now lying across a bench. I think the blind-fold is off but her eyes are closed and her facial expression is pure bliss. We hear a loud and sharp crack as her mistress snaps the whip across her ass and a low, deep moan escapes badslavegrrl's lips as she says in a deep, soulful but calm voice, "oooo that hurt"

Her mistress replies saying "that is what you wanted". She says it very simply, not with any edge in her voice but as a matter of fact.

We watch as badslavegrrl processes the pain and lets out a slow, deep moan and says very slowly still in a deep voice, "Yes, ooooo yes, more pain, pleeeese mistress". We don't get to hear or see the next crack of the whip but its clear that badslavegrrl has entered that place in her mind where pain has become pleasure and she is completely enraptured within her own subspace.

I've never witnessed a person in subspace and thought of it as being erotic. I know its a special place but after witnessing this scene I was just blown away by how hot it was making me feel.

The final scene shows the two of them facing each other, badslavegrrl is still lost in herself and they enjoy gentle kisses at the end of their scene.

Although the three scenes combined were maybe 5 minutes it was the most beautiful experience I have watched in a long time. After trying to figure it out for the last few years I finally saw the ecstasy that a true masochist experiences at the hands of the crafted sadist.

Creating Pleasure from Pain is an art.

Cool :cool:
 

edmontonsubbie

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wow...

....that's a very well written summation of what was obviously an interesting visual sequence. Cool and well done.

The best part of a healthy D/s relationship involves the COMPLETE trust in the ability of the Dom/me to remain within the sane limits agreed to...but also...to push a bit on the limits...lol. In my opinion, it's all about experimentation and just plain ol' having fun. Like that gal from the 50's said(dunno her name, but they did a play on her life called Kink here at the Fringe Festival about 5 years ago)..."blah, blah blah, everybody's got a kink"....I am horrible at remembering cool quotes...obviously.

I see you are in Vangroovie....so, based on the VERY little I know about alla this forum...I would offer one suggestion to explore a bit further...and that would be Avarice...I have seen her posts here and there and she seems logical, empathetic, and intelligent....PREMIUM in a Mistress!

Anyway, have fun with it and...in my opinion...done properly, it is exactly as compelling as you have summated from the cable show.

Cheers and good luck.
 

Skol

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Mar 19, 2005
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Thank you edmontonsubbie.

I appreciate your thoughts.

While I have explored the submissive side of the BDSM equation I have discovered that I am more of a sadist. The problem has been how to move beyond the D/S aspect of an experience into a S/M one where my partner is actually getting off on the S/M part and not the sex that follows. In my head I have understood the pain is pleasure concept but until I watched the KINK episode two weeks ago it had never actually sunk in deep enough so that I appreciated how erotic it truly is or can be.

I've watched many people whip, spank and administer various forms of sensation to others, having done a little bit of it myself also, but could not really get into the whole whip thing because in my mind it was always a tool to administer pain only. While watching a woman in pain does nothing for me, watching a woman transform the pain she is experiencing into pleasure is quite awesome! For the first time I am starting to look at implements (like a whip) not as objects of pain but as objects that ultimately deliver pleasure.

I think it is the use of those objects where a true art form can be developed under the right guidance.
 

edmontonsubbie

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ahhhhh...gotcha! I missed that possibility entirely...duh. I have also dabbled on both sides of the equation because, quite frankly, I think it takes a good sub to know a good Dom/me and vice versa. At the end of it all it's best to decide what side of the brain does the clicking for you and run with that. You certainly seem to have that part down.

The world of the sadist and the masochist. Now there's one that requires complete 'in tune'. And, I agree totally on your thought process and the way in which you have changed your view of the various 'implements' involved...that can lead to some amazing creativity. My ex and I would dabble in all of this and she was extremely good. We would play a best of three set of pool or some other contest (darts, tennis, picking off the first out of town licence plate, etc) and the 'winner' would own the other for the evening. She disliked the lack of inflection in my tone and the calm detached manner which I would employ while running her through her paces....obviously, she was NO masochist!...but I kinda enjoyed moving into a quietly sadistic mode. Credit to her though, when she did manage to guess right on those licence plates, she was frightening to behold.

Why all this background? No idea. Boredom? Probably. Actually getting ready to get the hell outta here and go work on the lord's day...tsk tsk tsk. Oh, I remember now....talk to Annalise Lane if you get a chance....she has mucho information on various clubs in the area that could potentially assist...I'm not much of a club guy...I always find 'clubs' to get overrun with ego and politics but...that's only me. The other thought might be to just take out a 20 line ad in the Georgia Straits (is that still around?) listing what you are looking for. With all due respect to any others and myself of course, subbies are kind of a dime a dozen...a good competent Dom or Domme...is a rare find. Perhaps you might be surprised by the response from said advert..perhaps not. You certainly can craft the language...so....give it a shot!

By the way, when you get to your destination and wanna build up your dungeon...give me a call and I can build it all for less than 1/2 of retail!...lol...although, I guess shipping would be a bitch.
 

Annalise Lane

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I hate the word Domme ... It sends shivers up my spin.

Dom me is it's orginal, and brought into real life from the internet world. Over time lazy fuck'n submissives started using it to refer to a FemTop/Mistress. It's fuck'n lazy so stop using it ... lol ... yeah right !! Dont I wish.

As time went on the two words became one; Domme.

It is a submissive telling a FemTop/Mistress that she should dominant him. Which is basicly him telling her what to do.

Dom or Top or any other term is unisex and the reader might not know whom you are refering to. So stop being so lazy and tell us who you prefer to play with, unless of course you play with both genders. Which is no big deal, because someone who can wheel a whip does it really matter who is doing the swinging.

See where the problem lies ?

still retired Mistress.
 

Skol

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Mar 19, 2005
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Thanks again for the thoughts edmontonsubbie.

Having been to a few play parties over the years (mostly as an observer) I actually know a couple of people who I plan on talking to, now that I've gone through this bit of an eye opener, about learning the finer points of the physical aspects of working with various implements to create pleasure from pain.

and Annalise I think you make a good point when you say does it really matter who is doing the swinging so long as they know how to wheel the whip? Ofcourse the administration of the whip is just one part of a multi-dimensional experience and although that part might feel the same to a man who is being whipped by another man (or woman by another woman) the other parts of voice and touch may not be right fit to complete the experience.
 
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