sexmaniac said:
There is one important qualifier I think that Maverick has stated, that it may be a turn on if you are an observer but not if you have to deal with their bitchy ways daily. I would like to be in the position as noneasgood, because if you own the company you are in control and you can choose who you work for. Eventually I hope to be in this position. I did not have any particular agenda posting this topic, but maybe just to relieve some stress and here other guy's viewpoints. There is something good about having moral support when you need it. I guess as a nicer person myself, who doesn't believe in complaining and bitching, it is hard for me to understand how some people can be like that. I know their are all types in the world and some people won't change their ways, but it is a real shame that these women don't wake up and ask themselves does anybody really like me? And if people are responding to them negatively don't they consider that as maybe a sign that they need to look inside themselves and change?
There's really not much you can do except grit your teeth, smile, and treat her really nice. Sometimes, if she treats you REALLY bad and everybody including her EXPECTS you to treat her somewhat badly in return or to retaliate, and you still treat her really nicely, she may be shocked and realize how much of a bitch she is and that maybe she should lighten up. I've known a lot of these types of women.
1. A friend of mine has a sister who is a total man hater. She is over 30, still lives at home, while her brother was happily married at a younger age. I don't know what happened to her, but I think she was deeply hurt by a man in a relationship. At the time, I was attached and had an attractive SO. When this girl saw my SO, she had this "bitch look" on her face, as if my SO reminded her of some girl that "stole her man" or something. Naturally, she didn't like me at first, but after being nice to her, she finally came around. She is actually quite attractive except for the initial scowl on her face and bitchy demeanour.
2. Another old friend of mine also had a sister with what he called "constant PMS." I really have no idea what was up with her, but I tried my best to be nice to her and she was nice to me in person... even though every time I called, she would be in a bad mood and be rude over the phone.
3. I once had a female boss working at a grocery store. She had a husband, 3 kids, and commuted 1.5 hours into work every day! She was always bitchy, but I could understand. She had a lot of pressure on her... working 40 hours a week, taking care of 3 kids, doing most of the housework, etc. She had a military crew cut which is highly unfeminine. I just did my job and kept to myself when she was on.
Since then I've never had any female bosses so it's hard for me to give first hand advice. I would say though that people that are like that aren't born like that. They are a product of their past environments. Just try to be as understanding as possible, and when all else fails, if she is hot, just think of all the compromising positions you'd like to put her through
. If she's not, well just grit your teeth and smile
.