Conversation during a visit.

How important is conversation/communication during a session to you.

  • Very Important/A deal breaker

    Votes: 16 22.5%
  • Important but not a deal breaker if she's hot and has a good reputation.

    Votes: 35 49.3%
  • Somewhat important but not necessary

    Votes: 14 19.7%
  • Could care less. I'm there to fuck not talk.

    Votes: 6 8.5%

  • Total voters
    71
  • Poll closed .

Jethro Bodine

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How important is being able to enjoy some intelligent conversation with an SP during a session?
I see many reviews where guys comment that the girl's English language skills were almost non existent so communication was minimal. Not to generalize but his seems to apply to many of the Asian providers.
Personally I am the type who enjoys some intelligent, witty conversation with my sessions, not to mention some dirty talk during.
Thus I find a visit with a lady whose English was poor challenging.

Cheers
J
 

felixthecat

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I'm tempted to call this a First World problem. Try being in Vancouver, where most of the people were born outside of Canada.
It's likely either she or you have some accent or other language limitations.
In order to survive, you'd have to master non-verbal communication. Which is kind of cool once you got there.

Also I'd hate to be a man who has to pay for it (an intelligent conversation, I mean). Can get it elsewhere.

The market seems to support it, given how some high-end SPs stay deservingly popular despite their conversational skills are limited.
Nobody's even calling them on it. It can be even a good thing, as the men are known to lose their thinking ability in a presence of a beautiful woman (scientific fact).
 

westwoody

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I'm too old for quickies.
If there isn't some kind of connection I am not interested.
 

grizzly

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Good conversation is a must for me. I believe the brain is the biggest sex organ and having it stimulated by a smart, funny lady is a huge turn on. I would prefer to spend time with a less attractive lady with wit and intelligence over a super model with no personality. This was the case a few months ago. I met a travelling lady for the first time who had raving reviews. She is smokin hot. A gorgeous young blond with a body to die for. When I tried engaging in conversation, all I got were one word answers and a giggle now and then. She was a rented blow up doll. I booked an hour and when it was apparent she wasn't going to turn on netflix, I left after 45 minutes.
 

badbadboy

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It's pretty important especially if you are doing longer dates.

It's been years since I met an SP who didn't engage in conversation. Usually I find them quite social with something to say for themselves. It helps develop a rapport.
 

cktc9

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I find that all the independents I've visited are intellegent and curious, and we usually end up having pretty good conversations, even with limited English.
Where I used to work there were a fair number of English-challenged, but intellegent individuals, and even with limited language skills it was possible to check into each other's deeper selves.

I don't mind the quiet stretches during a massage, it's usually caused by focusing on the job at hand.
I tend to chat, I'm usually as curious about their background, as they are about mine.
With repeat visits comes a deeper connection, and that tends to make things more open and enjoyable.

I'm not into the dirty talk, and the SP's pick up on it pretty quick. The funny thing is, I think it's all an act anyway, and so instead I eventually get to meet the real person. ...or at least, the more real person...
And that's more enjoyable for me, as it feels deeper.
...I'm less focused on her appearance anyway, it's her personality that does it for me!
 

thodisipagal

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For me, attitude is more important than communication or language skills. The language skills that matter to me is the body language and the language of her eyes (and maybe boobs). I never go to see ladies to have conversation about the marginal elasticity of demand or Theory of Relativity or Theory of Evolution.
 

Jethro Bodine

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I never go to see ladies to have conversation about the marginal elasticity of demand or Theory of Relativity or Theory of Evolution.
I don't think anyone here is talking about these kind of conversations. I certainly am not. LOL!
My question refers to the ability to actually be able to communicate verbally with someone regarding either current events, your day or what types of things you like do do in session.
This compared to sessions guys describe, where there may be 10 words exchanged in an hour.

Cheers
J
 

Bridge

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For me, attitude is more important than communication or language skills. The language skills that matter to me is the body language and the language of her eyes (and maybe boobs). I never go to see ladies to have conversation about the marginal elasticity of demand or Theory of Relativity or Theory of Evolution.
I may be wrong but isn't the experience all about elasticity of demand ... relatively speaking!!!!
 

Riza

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I have to control myself usually when having a guest over. I am a curious person by heart and very chatty and like to get to know a person if time allows during a visit. I have to remember that many guests are not interested or comfortable talking about themselves but me being Filipino am very blunt and forward and will get into life experiences, travel talk, family talk most things.

I have many regs that email when on vacation to say hi, send pics of them and I do the same. Its a connection that doesn't come with a one time quick rendezvous and makes everything so much better.

Also I have had longtime guests take me to weddings, wine making, travel to other countries and who I have taken boating, bbq and a few to the range lol :) Everything better with familiarity that starts with conversation and leads to friendship and getting to know each others likes and dislikes.

So in closing conversation is usually not a problem with me, you just have to let me know where to draw the line :eyebrows:
 

odlum

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Intelligent conversation is important to me. It needs to be more than about the weather and you can put your clothes over there! Conversation is part of making the connection and making the connection is part of the experience. If there is no connection, there is no return visit.
 

80watts

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The intelligent conversation is to use your biggest sex tool.... your brain. Sexy dirty talk is always good....
 

sevenofnine

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maybe im off topic,

but saw my sp the weekend,

its like shit the time flew, I didn't get home to the wee hours, and we met at noon,
and we did get naked but most of it was conversation,,

something to be said for a friend ship in this crazy thing we do,
I have known her for a dozen years,

yeah, and its not all smooth sailing she or we both share parts of our personal life,
that maybe the other doesn't want to hear,

and maybe you see someone just because we are friends.
I dunno it does get complicated,

but it is enjoyable
enjoyable as hell
 

thodisipagal

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One cute, young SP I saw last year asked me if I could help her with her differential calculus assignment. I ended up spending a few hours at her incall. I suppose that was "Intelligent" enough conversation during a date?
 

clu

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I need intelligent conversation. Need not discuss quantum physics, but it needs to be more than small talk and casual conversation. Without this, there is no connection for me.
Bringing up quantum mechanics would indeed be a little quarky.
 

felixthecat

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One cute, young SP I saw last year asked me if I could help her with her differential calculus assignment. I ended up spending a few hours at her incall. I suppose that was "Intelligent" enough conversation during a date?
Creepy, she could have been underage.

And it took you a few hours to help with an undergrad assignment on differential calculus? I don't know if I can call this intelligent enough.
:behindsofa:
 

wilde

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I have had many unexpectedly profound and deep conversations with SPs. I think that sometimes it is easier to open up to a stranger that you think you may not see again (at the time) after an enjoyable shared experience.
 
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