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Never tried...but curious about whether any good arrangements can be worked out from those

There were some threads in the Lounge on this topic.

I recall a few guys were pretty happy with their own set up.

I took a look at SA back east, in a major american city where I live.

It was fun sifting through the postings seeking an older woman, of an ethnicity different from me, who I fantasized was seeking a man like me. My offering looked good on paper and I photograph well so I had good reason. I would check for replies frequently. I now think that that is all part of the game and the excitement that causes people to spend money in this way.

No one to whom I reached out—whose personal description I found attractive—replied. Those included people who listed exactly what I had in mind and were seeking what I thought I was offering. I received replies from other cities from other people I found unattractive—hyped, over eager, too beautiful and too young and I decided that they might even be false postings made by the SA staff to encourage hopefuls like me. Many seemed too good to be true, and others ridiculous.

There were dozens and dozens of postings so the odds appeared good, yet nothing came of it.

Mind you, I am patient and selective so I was not about to give someone a shot (or take a shot) out of desperation or to satisfy my loneliness, or horniness. I realized that if I did that, things might only be worse. I wanted someone who was curious, smart, and capable of understanding the process of having sexual encounters without paying money (for sex) or for the sheer fun of an illicit relationship.

Because of my experience, I do not recommend SA. In fact, I have tried a few other services and even went on one date with someone who was very nice, pretty, but who I deemed not suitable for me as I was at that time.

My guess? SA a way for an online business to collect email addresses of vulnerable men and women who might be open to offers that other people would not even consider. Or at least their collection is a side business that eventually brings in more than the main business.

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pinky2 so if you dotn recommend SA what would u say is a better alternative to it??

I have just took a quick look on the site, looks kinda interesting... Not sure if is should give it a shot

SA was the best and only reliable site have come across to meet sugar babes/ non escorts for sexual arrangements
I had joined many after getting lots of apparent interest, but when I joined in order to converse, they all disappeared so I figured they were fake set up girls - not so with SA

Yes you need pay $50 a month or so to have the right to talk on the site, but there are many woman for every man and the woman do not need to pay. It was rare to talk to a fake or an escort and since you can talk to them all for free for the month once you sign up if bad vibes do not set up a meeting.

- you can easily get dozens of bites by very pretty girls - In fact that site spoiled me from escorts - much better quality and value (unless you want the 40 year old escort lol) - and you can talk and discuss what they will do or wont as as well as cost and exchange photos if you like (but most were shy to give real face photos before we met - I never had to pay one cent to meet; since they are normally students or the like needing money, normally if you talk sex or money before you meet you may scare them; but some want to discuss that before you meet - normally meet at a starbucks so it will not cost you too much and there if chemistry discuss details including compensation, if not say goodbye.

Most of the girls wanted a regular arrangement - like weekly, but that was ok by me and I told all I was looking for that provided I was happy with our first encounter - some after meeting or after the first intimate encounter were not good so did not repeat but still paid the compensation - many wanted monthly compensation but agreed to a per time compensation to start to make sure we both wanted it to continue -

I had a great experience from a sister site, EM...i think they interlink. My relationship was off and on for 4 years. It's been tough trying to connect with someone now. Jamesjohmson, do you mind if I ask who it was you met with?? 10k/month seems ridculus to me.

$10k/month is achievable actually.
It takes a man who can afford it, and a woman who knows how to treat and talk to that man

Aellyn said:

$10k/month is achievable actually.
It takes a man who can afford it, and a woman who knows how to treat and talk to that man

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Must be nice to have that kind of money. For that kind of dough she better be a victoria secret model, and better be a good cook; although I guess most of the women on those sites wanna be wine and dined.

If I had Donald trump money and were as ugly as him for sure I'd do that for his wife

jackpot!

Depends on how long the $10K will last you. If she is willing to get together a couple times a week for a year this is less than $100/session. Maybe less visits for guys that have a higher budget.

This could be workable if you really like the girl, and if you are willing to put your whole pooning budget into this girl. $10K/month is unreasonable for all but a very few guys. Maybe if the girl looks like Kim Kardashian or a Victoria's secret model she could command this kind of money, I am pretty sure that very few regular looking girls could do this.

To the OP: she may have been a bit nervous during your meeting unless she is very skilled at this type of thing. It's possible that's why you got weirded out by her attitude. If she still is texting you she may be willing to negotiate.....

I really don't think those number are off base at all. I have never been on SA, but can speak from an independent companion perspective.

The least I have ever been offered for an 'exclusive' arrangement is 10K/month for 1-2 dates a week. The average is 30K/month, and the most was 2 million/year (which would have been up to 1 week each month for travel, and up to 2 days per week each other week).

These have never been of interest to me, as I personally love the variety and and independence that being a courtesan brings. My freedom and happiness are worth much more than any of these arrangements could have compensated. (And all of these gentlemen were in fact wonderful suitors who I adored. It is simply not the type of relationship I desire, even though the economics of it appear outstanding). I am not into entering into a legal contractual agreement to spend time with somebody long term, and to be obligated to cater to their schedule and whims at the drop of a hat......or even to feel as though that could happen.

These offers continue to be frequent. I am not so arrogant to believe that my average offer is anywhere near the top of what is being laid out or provided to others. There is a reason why companions disappear for a few months or years and then come back.

I also agree that there are probably a lot of ladies who are single mothers, in University etc. who would be thrilled to just have their rent paid, go out for a few nice meals, and perhaps have a few gifts or perks for an exclusive arrangement.

As with everything in life, there is no such thing as 'the norm'. Value comes from far more than compensation and a list of acronyms.

The best arrangement is always win/win. One which leaves all involved completely happy with the arrangement, and feeling as though they are deeply appreciated and respected.

How did you come up with $100/session if you visit a couple times a week?

johnniejetpack said:

Depends on how long the $10K will last you. If she is willing to get together a couple times a week for a year this is less than $100/session. Maybe less visits for guys that have a higher budget.

This could be workable if you really like the girl, and if you are willing to put your whole pooning budget into this girl. $10K/month is unreasonable for all but a very few guys. Maybe if the girl looks like Kim Kardashian or a Victoria's secret model she could command this kind of money, I am pretty sure that very few regular looking girls could do this.

To the OP: she may have been a bit nervous during your meeting unless she is very skilled at this type of thing. It's possible that's why you got weirded out by her attitude. If she still is texting you she may be willing to negotiate.....

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to bubbletea, below:

i think that if you take every $50 payment you make to one of these agencies, every 'ante' you pay, and put that money in a jar, you'll do better to later spend that on sexual activity with someone you can see, meet and talk to prior to paying. people write off these fees by saying 'well, it was only $50, i can walk away from that' or something else to justify their vulnerability, but in the end you're better off retaining more control over that which your money brings closer to you. with the agencies, it brings only the ability to begin communicating. not enough for me.

this is no game for pure speculation when speculation is based on hope and fantasy, unless you have lots of disposable income.

my answer to your question is to try only the free agencies like 'plenty of fish' 'okcupid' and so forth, none of which begin with sexual desire (but may wind up there).

i tried these very briefly but quickly realized (within a few days) that none were for me.

on the other hand, for any young pooner, a real relationship is very much better than a money for sex relationship and you might get lucky. i know people who have found partners as a result of these sites.

in my youth i was in a traditional relationship for 30 years. it was great, i had children; that was long ago. now i am in a new stage of life that is more focussed on adapting.

I have met an absolute gem on SA who, if she chose to be an escort, could command far more per hour, per week, per month or per year than any PERB advertiser. She is a student who chooses not to be an escort because she has larger goals in life and this is, after all, a small town. We see each other once a week, there is no clock watching, she will travel with me, and the monthly donation is less than a night with Lady Companion. They are out there gentlemen. Write an interesting profile and you will meet a lot of women to choose from.

BigDuke6 said:

Is it Bubbles from AF - cos she seems really hot?

BD

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If there is one thing Kayden Kross is an expert on, it is doing virtually anything for a few bucks.

BadgerJohn said:

So if you found this ultimate gem on SA then why do you feel the need to be on an Escort review board. Leaving generally negative comments, or commenting on everyone else's reviews and good times shared without really writing any reviews yourself. ( the one you did was not really a review. No contact info, no price just a 4 line paragraph..


Doubt that this "gem" if she decided to be a escort would command far more than any perb advertiser.

Sorry man that's just laughable. You've bought into this sugar baby not being an escort myth. I had one blow up on me after I mentioned she should become a limited availability escort. Boom! It's all in their perception then bought into by guys. Ohh i'm a sugar daddy not a John.

Lol They are taking a monthly donation from you to get together on a few nights etc during that month in exchange for sexual services and companionship. Or maybe she just sends you selfies of herself in lingerie daily.. Wow worth every penny.

Yep sounds so different

Then when the Money dries up son... she's gone onto the next guy with a thicker wallet.

So try to redo the conditions of your "arrangement" Tell her your going to have to reduce the amount you are "paying" her but you want to keep the same stuff happening. I'll bet she says she doesn't negotiate a price. Gee wonder where we've heard that before.

Good luck with your special arrangement though.

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If someone went out and paid a local courtesan let's say $400 or $500 per session twice a week...... at then of the month he would be at the $4000 mark or less.... and still have the same result and have an extra $6000 to spend on 1 or 2 more girls... depending on the arrangement.. so now... that man would have only 1 evening left a week to spend with his buddies and share the stories......
Just my thoughts....

Lady Companion said:

The least I have ever been offered for an 'exclusive' arrangement is 10K/month for 1-2 dates a week. The average is 30K/month, and the most was 2 million/year (which would have been up to 1 week each month for travel, and up to 2 days per week each other week).

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$2 million per year with a commitment of a mere 12 exclusive weeks per year plus a two day work week for the balance of the year? And you chose what? Sorry I have never challenged you before as you present yourself as generous and intelligent lady but that sounds incredible. It is hard to fathom a life like such as yours to turn down $2 million. And again I apologize to you for challenging the story but it's just such an incredible one.