Totally new to the whole experience.. advice and comments?

amacc

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Good evening gentlemen, ladies..

I feel obliged to state that I did attempt to search through the site to find answers, but I admit maybe I was entering the wrong search strings, because I failed to find exactly what I was looking for.

I am entirely new to this experience, and am tentatively asking for comments, advice, berating, whathaveyou, to lead me on my way:

- So I understand the idea of the 4 digits as the last numbers of the phone number, searchable via directories such as spar..
- I get that for some, ``$`` denotes a hundred, and ``.5`` denotes fifty. Eg $$$.5 is 350 dollars.
- I understand most of the acronyms


But I`m curious as to how this works out in the real world.
So I phone a chosen number for a chosen girl, and a meeting is arranged (for example, an in-call). I assume you make them aware of the time you wish to have with them, the cost in cash, your name, and assumedly an address to go to. Do you ask their limitations (ie, no BJ, no greek, DFK, etc etc)?

You arrive at the location, whenever it was made for. Do you come with anything, other than obviously the cash? Towel, contraceptives, what? Is there some protocol to follow? Do you discuss, do you make payment immediately, or after, or what? Is the clock watched with an eagle eye? A thought just crossed my mind, say you pay for 15 minutes or something, and time`s up before you know it.. just a larger payment or will she just stop?

I see mentions of showering. Do you shower with them, or separately, or what?


I apologize for all the questions, I know that I sound horrifically green to this, but I am. Thank you in advance, and also expecting some beratement as well, but I think I have the internet thick skin down pat now.

Cheers. :D
 

yazoo

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amacc Welcome to the forum! We hope to hear more from you as you progress through your hobby.

To answer some of your questions - that code is an unnecessary obfuscation that fools nobody. With your first browse you have conquered it.

Yes, you phone and you book. It is not unlike booking a dentist appointment - although a bit more pleasurable. I rarely ask limitations - it is usually spelled out in the ad.

Speaking of ads, many of them are fake - as your research has no doubt pointed out. Take a look at the review section and choose a well reviewed SP. You will also know their limitations and their prices from the reviews.

Showering together is great fun. Many SP's want it so that they can be sure that you are truly clean. Of course you can have the same guarantee. And there is always the chance of that in the shower BJ!

Figure out how long you want before you go. The SP will want to make sure that there are no appointment clashes, and she needs cleanup time before the next client.

With most SP's here, all you need is your money. If you have a favorite condom bring it. Some guys have a whole kit. Personally, I like to bring a towel or small sheet to throw over the bed. I just feel more comfortable that way as I'm not sure that the one provided has been laundered.
 

Dickson

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Welcome amacc.

You got it figured out to a large degree. Not sure if we have a code of conduct. But it does work how you want it to work. Personally, I call and ask the questions to get details and to confirm what is on the website or in the ad. Limitations is a big thing as well as what I want them to wear and the role I want them to play. And of course what the rate is. I like to book a few days in advance as I am flying in and don't like to take the chance. For short term appointments I might use an agency. They do the work and I get better results. If I really want a independent the more notice the better.

Go with cash, normally they want to use thier own condoms. But I might have extra lub in my things. I might bring a little gift as well depending on the lady. Regarding protocol just have the money in an unmarked enevlop or it can be in a card that I have on a table. I only do outcalls. I don't like incalls. I like to control my enviroment.

Yes pay up front. Some ladies will watch the clock and personally I do not tend to visit those ladies. Again depends on the lady if you are over they might just kill the moment when they say are you done yet. LIke I said I tend to stay away from those ladies. Perb is a great place to do your research. The good ones will not cut you off but you might want to consider a tip. Oh yea respect of the ladies goes a long way. Most are great people in bad situations. Some will do things that they normally would not do. So keep your wallet in eyesight. iF you feel uncomfortable get out before it gets bad.Do expect some appoints to be cancelled or delayed but if you have to cancel call and let her know.

No need to apologize. Everyone starts some where. Best advice I can give is just relax and enjoy the experience. Enjoy the moment. Don't create huge expecatation or you maybe disappointed. If you just allow thing to flow you might be surprised zt what might happen. Some sessions are good, some not bad, some might get ugly but then Oh heaven. That is the holy Grail. Report back and you might find you get a lot of assistance on here.

you got the right approach to this board. You got the good, bad and ugly on here as well.

Good luck and enjoy the experience. I hope this helps.
 
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Just to make a couple of things a bit more clear, as I have garnered reading this site for coming up on 7 years:

Showers: some will shower with, some won't, some leave it up to you. Usually before and after, but especially before. If this matters to you, ask before booking.

Fee: Pretty much all of the ladies want you to put it in an unmarked envelope, and put it on the counter or tabletop shortly after entering their incall (or leave the envelops somewhere conspicuous if they are coming to you). Don't hand it to them, just put it down, kind of like you might hang your coat on the back of a chair when arriving at a friends house. She will discreetly count it while you are in the bathroom to undress/shower.
 

VoiceOfReason

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Prepare for an equal number of highs and lows.

Most SP's leave much to be desired.. however a few make the whole game worth it.
 

sevenofnine

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My two cents after a decade in this,

The ladies make the rules. Each women is different and handles things differently. Just go with it.
Every women has a style and a comfort level and I guess what she considers she owes you for the money spent.
And again don't fight it if you don't like it move on.

Be nice respectful, hold up your end, take care of your end of this, and all you can do is hope
the lady takes care of hers. Some do some don't.
The women are human beings, with all that entails. Give them the benifit of the doubt. Just move on if it doesn't work out.
 

vancity_cowboy

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Prepare for an equal number of highs and lows.

Most SP's leave much to be desired.. however a few make the whole game worth it.
^^ that about says it all

i didn't have an enjoyable experience until my 3rd time out, but number 3 was an absolute winner
 

gonzo34

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Generally, but not always, you will get what you pay for in this game. For instance, a 15 minute appointment, as you mentioned in your original post, doesn't leave much time for anything and you will feel rushed. Frankly, any escort worth the money wouldn't touch a 15 minute appointment.

If you go to an agency then your appointment will be the length of time you paid for and then there will be a knock at the door. Its a business and time is money. Agency is just a polite word for brothel. The girls are there to service the customers as they come in and it is a bit of a conveyor belt. That's not a bad thing, just the way it works.

My best experiences have come through selecting an independent girl that I like the look of, checking reviews and booking in advance. Girls with their own web sites, rather than just advertising on the various boards, are more likely to be reliable and take their work seriously. That means they should have a decent in call place and will want you to have a good experience so you will return and/or post positive reviews. They will also know how to make the experience as awesome as possible for you, especially if you let them know what you want. Spend a little extra and go and see one of the the premium girls - you can see who they are - its completely worth it. The biggest risk you face then is falling in love with them and creating a very expensive hobby for yourself.

Cheaping out leaves you open to a variety of disasters. Getting ripped off by scammers, showing up and she looks nothing like the pictures, filthy apartments with pyschotic boyfriends in the next room, girls with drug problems, you name it. Most of us will have been through one or all of these at times.

And these girls are real people with real feelings. A little consideration and politeness on your part will go a long way to ensuring a good experience.

Good luck.
 

amacc

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My apologies on the very delayed response! As I'm sure we all know terribly well, sometimes the real world intrudes on our desires, and greedily seizes all previously free time. It's all in the little things, I suppose.

I want to thank all of you, firstly, for the warm welcome, and secondly, for the amazing plethora of wisdom and knowledge! I feel much the wiser, though like all things, I can't wait to experience the real world variables of these scenarios.

I wish I could take the time to respond to everyone individually, but with such detailed answers, I feel as though the cumulative byproduct of that would feel more like a full-length dissertation than brief individual responses! :doh:

I think the only thing I want to mention, is to gonzo34, that my example of 15 minutes wasn't intended to be a realistic time approximation! :pound: I don't think I could finish lunch in that time, haha.

Again, thank you all. I hope to update you when the time allows me to delve into this hobby.
 

WittyIdiot

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Generally, but not always, you will get what you pay for in this game. For instance, a 15 minute appointment, as you mentioned in your original post, doesn't leave much time for anything and you will feel rushed. Frankly, any escort worth the money wouldn't touch a 15 minute appointment.

If you go to an agency then your appointment will be the length of time you paid for and then there will be a knock at the door. Its a business and time is money. Agency is just a polite word for brothel. The girls are there to service the customers as they come in and it is a bit of a conveyor belt. That's not a bad thing, just the way it works.

My best experiences have come through selecting an independent girl that I like the look of, checking reviews and booking in advance. Girls with their own web sites, rather than just advertising on the various boards, are more likely to be reliable and take their work seriously. That means they should have a decent in call place and will want you to have a good experience so you will return and/or post positive reviews. They will also know how to make the experience as awesome as possible for you, especially if you let them know what you want. Spend a little extra and go and see one of the the premium girls - you can see who they are - its completely worth it. The biggest risk you face then is falling in love with them and creating a very expensive hobby for yourself.

Cheaping out leaves you open to a variety of disasters. Getting ripped off by scammers, showing up and she looks nothing like the pictures, filthy apartments with pyschotic boyfriends in the next room, girls with drug problems, you name it. Most of us will have been through one or all of these at times.

And these girls are real people with real feelings. A little consideration and politeness on your part will go a long way to ensuring a good experience.

Good luck.
I follow the same protocol when choosing who I see and I have yet to have a bad experience. Sticking to independents with a professional looking websites is the only thing I've ever been comfortable with.
 

cjac7214

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Generally, but not always, you will get what you pay for in this game. For instance, a 15 minute appointment, as you mentioned in your original post, doesn't leave much time for anything and you will feel rushed. Frankly, any escort worth the money wouldn't touch a 15 minute appointment.

If you go to an agency then your appointment will be the length of time you paid for and then there will be a knock at the door. Its a business and time is money. Agency is just a polite word for brothel. The girls are there to service the customers as they come in and it is a bit of a conveyor belt. That's not a bad thing, just the way it works.

My best experiences have come through selecting an independent girl that I like the look of, checking reviews and booking in advance. Girls with their own web sites, rather than just advertising on the various boards, are more likely to be reliable and take their work seriously. That means they should have a decent in call place and will want you to have a good experience so you will return and/or post positive reviews. They will also know how to make the experience as awesome as possible for you, especially if you let them know what you want. Spend a little extra and go and see one of the the premium girls - you can see who they are - its completely worth it. The biggest risk you face then is falling in love with them and creating a very expensive hobby for yourself.

Cheaping out leaves you open to a variety of disasters. Getting ripped off by scammers, showing up and she looks nothing like the pictures, filthy apartments with pyschotic boyfriends in the next room, girls with drug problems, you name it. Most of us will have been through one or all of these at times.

And these girls are real people with real feelings. A little consideration and politeness on your part will go a long way to ensuring a good experience.

Good luck.
Great advice! I have personally never had a bad experience, especially in the first years, because I instinctively knew to do this and followed these rules - definitely go with a well-reviewed escort the first few times. Over the years, you will learn the warning signs.

Just one comment - unfortunately, not all the escorts that advertise as being "independent", even here on PERB, are in fact independent. That doesn't mean that you would not have a great time with a hot and sexy woman but I prefer to see an escort that is truly independent, gets all the money, controls who she sees and when etc. I know who these true independents are with experience, and who are not, but just know that, often, not everything is as it seems.

Also, be prepared that some truly independent escorts have screening processes for personal safety - this can be a problem when you are starting out. A respectful and thoughtful introduction to yourself can make a world of difference. Remember, the really great escorts can be very selective and will choose to meet men that they will actually like and have fun with.

Hope you enjoy!
 
Hello and welcome. I am new to perb too!

Always read the website or the ad, front to back. 2 or 3 times. Make sure she sees first timers. COMPATIBILITY IS KEY.
Communicate only in the way the SP requests (some prefer phone calls only, some email only)
Its ok to confirm rates and services, but ask too many questions you may come across as a WOT.
Never negotiate rates.
Respect her boundaries.
Do not ask her her name when you arrive. YOU picked her, you should know her name. (Cannot believe I have to mention that)
Go with an hour or 90 minutes for your first appt. This leaves plenty of time for you to relax get to know each other.

Oh and did I mention, to RELAX? :)

Good luck, stud!!! :D
 

AA_Train

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First, establish a budget. How much do you want to spend and how much time do you want to spend with a lady. Then, figure out what you want in terms of services. Think of everything you want, no matter how extreme it may be. Then, out of all that, establish your deal breakers, meaning what services you feel you must have. For example, for me DATY is a must. Something like greek is preferred but it is not a deal breaker for me if it is not available and everything else is. It is doubtful one lady will do everything you want but if they can cover the important things, then i say they are worth a try.

Research several ladies via their ads, websites, reviews and posts and find the ones that appeals to you and who will meet your desired service requirements. I say e mail is best for first contact, as it is a little easier to ask more direct questions and a the ladies seem to be a little more comfortable with answering them, though the good ones clarify most things in their ads and on their websites. Respectful and clear communication is key for both parties.

I used to plan things a few days in advance but now I find for there to be no more than 36 hours from the time you initiate contact to the desired appointment time. Try to see a lady when you have the urge, as your desire may wain if you schedule too far in advance. With touring ladies, it's a little different, as pre booking is often the best way to make sure you get a spot, but sometimes there are cancellations and you can gobble the open spot up.

Before you go, make sure you are well groomed and clean. I tend to take the same steps I would if I was going on a date, though in this case, you know you are going to get lucky. Just be cool, be yourself, be respectful and have fun. These ladies want to enjoy themselves and they want you to as well .if you treat them right, they will return the favour ten fold :)
 

blazejowski

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My best advice nuggets:

Do your research before booking a girl. Look for reviews, as many as possible.

Make sure she does everything you want her to do - I, for example, need a girl who allows MSOG and DATY.

Let your big head do the thinking for you.

I only go into appointments with my cash envelope, my cell, and keys.

Go with your gut. Always. If something feels wrong, leave.

Have fun, and always respect the girl you're going to see...
 
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