being a parent and this hobby.

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sevenofnine

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My kid my daughter, some guy at work was arrested and sits in jail for sexual crimes.
My daughter is like mid twenties.


Any way me and her sit down and talk regularlly and sometimes just hang out.
But she is telling me about this guy she knows his wife, his family is ruined. For what sexual gratification. An akward conversation.
On my phone I have text messages from my escort.
How do I explain it if I ever get caught.

Chances are slim, I have been doing it for almost a decade now. But still.
My only explanation is me and my wife aren't having sex. What do you expect.

And I guess I have practiced this hobby in such a way that the ladies become my friends,
We are actually seeing each other, more or less. So I see a women as more then just sex.

I dunno I guess its easier for a man then a women. Not that it should be. It just is. Not fair.

I have seen several younger escorts and they phoned there kids while I was in the room standing there with an erection and naked. Telling me how they loved there kids.
I never went back.

I have seen an older escort, we talked regularly about her kids who were all grown up, she brought out the family album and showed me. I enjoyed seeing her actually.

The lady I see regularly asks me about my kids, like its the most natural thing in the world.
But I have seen her along time.
Just thoughts on kids and this anybody, how do you deal with it.

Do you have to,
 
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Dgodus

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I don't bother erasing communications. There are no repercussions for me (personally or professionally) in someone finding out what I'm doing.

Can't say that I'd partake if I was married. I've never been a cheat or one to stray though (save for first year university when the gf was at home).
 
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Ms.Lolita Monroe

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sevenofnine said:
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I have seen several younger escorts and they phoned there kids while I was in the room standing there with an erection and naked. Telling me how they loved there kids.
I never went back.


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That is just so wrong on so many levels and I can't even begin to explain how much that grosses me out and angers me.

IMHO
1) Ladies should not bring their kids into the workplace ( I have heard of some ladies who do that, while their kids are sleeping in the next room/ bawling their eyes out)... I understand it is hard being a single mum and daycare and babysitters are expensive but this is a big NO NO! I have never had a kid or been married so I may not understand a lot of things these ladies have to deal with but calling their babies (toddlers or teenagers) while in the room with a client is being disrespectful to them being mums and also putting the client in an awkward situation .... not only that but also ruining the fantasy for them

2) Its ok to share experiences about kids but not to mention their names .... for all you know his kid and her kid could be friends :fear:


A lot of my clients talk to me about their daughters (some of them who are actually older than me), and I appreciate that they don't talk about their daughters with me when we are lying naked on my bed .... sometimes when the age issue comes up it gets really awkward ... once a client blurted out "oh my daughter is the same age as you" .... awkward silence ... needless to say we never saw each other again

If your daughter or family does not live with you and no one goes through your phone it is fine to hold on to text messages but at the same time in case something were to go wrong and your phone ended up in the wrong place it could negatively effect not only your life but as well as the SP's life so you might want to consider deleting them and leaving no trace :)
 
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sevenofnine

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Ms. Orchid thankyou,
I feel I could write volumes on just that, a women phoning her kid when I am in the room naked, they were younger kids and one time it was a younger teenager daughter she phoned.

Text messages with my escort on my phone is no big deal, we respect each others privacy, and she is pretty descreet reading it one might be curious but that would be all.

Its just the fact that they were there, my sp texted we were getting togther, and here I was talking to my daughter about some sex pervert who had ruined his family his life.
Trying to make sense of it to her. Because she had worked with this guy,
and here I was.

I always felt people have the right to be happy, to pursue happiness, and that includes sex and sexuality.
It is really no different.

But still we have obligations and responsibilites and people deserve to be treated with respect.

People have wondered why I write so much and put myself out there so much.

I need to know I am doing the best I can,
 
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sevenofnine said:
Ms. Orchid thankyou,

People have wondered why I write so much and put myself out there so much.

I need to know I am doing the best I can,
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No one here or anywhere really can help you with that.. you are the only one that knows if you are doing the best you can.
 
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sevenofnine

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NoSoundRain said:
No one here or anywhere really can help you with that.. you are the only one that knows if you are doing the best you can.
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Yes and no.
Of course the final decision is mine.

But well life is about options.
I write to think, to focus my thoughts.
And well I come here to hear other peoples experiances and thoughts.

That saying life is greener on the other side.
But you know sometimes it isn't,
What is that song by Garth Thank God for unanswered Prayers.

Some ones life some times looks better then your own, But when you hear them talk about it and describe it
well maybe not.
 
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I have had a few ladies start saying, "fuck me daddy," in a session and at first it was very off putting.
 
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Avery

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1. If you have an SO, get a throwaway phone from 7-11 and use it exclusively for pooning.
2. Keep it in a safe place where your SO isn't likely to look.
3. Keep it turned off when you aren't using it so it doesn't ring if escorts send you unexpected messages.
4. Delete messages and contact info when you're done, just in case.
5. NEVER use your personal or business phone for pooning. NEVER!
6. Keep escorts' contact info and messages in an anonymous email account that's also used exclusively for pooning.
7. NEVER use your personal or business email account for pooning. NEVER!
 
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Bobo The Rabbit

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You should not do this if what your doing would hurt someone you care about if they found out.
That means its wrong.

Go be single and screw 4 SPs a day if you like.
 
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Wow, Playful Alex - it has been YEARS since I heard that song - back when I was going through a country phase. See look how this hobby can affect your loved ones. Now they run the risk that I'll start listening to JRFM again. Yup, the hobby is all about risk management. Always be single, or at least wear headphones every time.
 
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Ms.Orchid said:
once a client blurted out "oh my daughter is the same age as you" .... awkward silence ... needless to say we never saw each other again
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OK, whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy is this "needless to say"??


Are you discriminating against a client because of his age?

Are you discriminating against a client because he has a child?

or are you discriminating against a client because of his child's age?


Which form of discrimination are you practicing??


Again, why is this "needless to say"?


When something is truly needless to say - the answer/understanding as to why one might say it, should be already clear.
 
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yazoo

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How is feeling awkward or being uncomfortable discrimination? Jeez, I must be discriminating all the time. C'mon - there was no hatred or bigotry there.
 
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SeekSteadyRegSP

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yazoo said:
How is feeling awkward or being uncomfortable discrimination? Jeez, I must be discriminating all the time. C'mon - there was no hatred or bigotry there.
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Noun

1.The unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things, esp. on the grounds of race, age, or sex.



(so I'm guessing it wasn't race... but so far we can't even rule that out)


A lot of people in this business discriminate, and perfectly legally too. I didn't suggest that the woman was doing something illegal. Just wondering why she was discriminating despite her strong implication that it should have been obvious which criteria for discrimination is her favorite.
 
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My son is the most important thing in my life and my only rule for this hobby is that it does not interfere with my time with him. THis is the reason i never partake in sessions on evenings or weekends as time with him is too precious to me.

Realistically, if you took married guys out of the mix there would likely be a lot less business for the Ladies. I also think there are a lot of the Ladies with kids at home too and i certainly don't discriminate against those with kids. Maybe not appropriate to call kids during a session or discuss kids but many of us out there have kids and SO's as well.

As for the SP referring to the client as Daddy, not my cup of tea but to each their own. I would also think that a lady mentioning to her client that he is the same age as her Dad would be a mistake but i'm sure a turn on for some. Probably akward for the Lady if the client states she is the same age as his daughter too. Really there has to be something better to discuss with a lady than your kids.
 
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SeekSteadyRegSP said:
Noun

1.The unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things, esp. on the grounds of race, age, or sex.



(so I'm guessing it wasn't race... but so far we can't even rule that out)


A lot of people in this business discriminate, and perfectly legally too. I didn't suggest that the woman was doing something illegal. Just wondering why she was discriminating despite her strong implication that it should have been obvious which criteria for discrimination is her favorite.
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First of all the treatment that she might be showing to the client may not be "unjust" if the client's comment evokes psychological and emotional discomfort for her. The use of the term discriminate is somewhat abrasive when considering the context she used it in. And that's only if we assume that the two didn't see each other again by her choice.

For all we know, based on Ms. Ochid's comments, the client may have stopped seeing her when he blurted the comment out and felt dirty for fucking a woman the same age as his baby girl. I can understand that perspective completely.
 
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Why would it matter if the age of the escort is the same as the age of your daughter? She isn't your daughter, she is another woman.

You would think that any escort that sees an older guy (say 50s or more) has to know that any kids he has are probably going to be the same age as her or older. They are the same age. So what.

IMO the people who get bothered by age between consenting adults have underlying emotional issues that they are projecting, and I don't think that is very healthy if you are in this business as either a provider or as a client.
 
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Tugela said:
Why would it matter if the age of the escort is the same as the age of your daughter? She isn't your daughter, she is another woman.

You would think that any escort that sees an older guy (say 50s or more) has to know that any kids he has are probably going to be the same age as her or older. They are the same age. So what.

IMO the people who get bothered by age between consenting adults have underlying emotional issues that they are projecting, and I don't think that is very healthy if you are in this business as either a provider or as a client.
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what he said... :rolleyes: :thumb:
 
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