Duration of sex with SP

nickcan said:

I recently visited a SP that I won't name and after 40 minutes of sex, handjob and blowjob she told me that I must be a chronic masturbator because I can't get off. I was erect the entire time so it's not erectile dysfunction.
I was upset at that remark and I hadn't masturbated and it was actually sex with another SP 11 days prior to seeing her.
For me it's nerves, condom usage that I hate and rarely used with past girlfriends/wife, stress from job and a bit of fear with catching a STI.

Any one else have this same problem?

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Yup same here, don't masturbate neither. She started to dry up around the 30 minute mark and when I hit something deep inside her, said it hurt. Went gentle and slow most of that time too, anyway she kept it lubed after that but then she got tired around 45 minutes and asked me when I was gonna finish.

Hard to find an SP that can really take it.

It's unfortunate that she expressed herself that way to you. It sounds like it was pretty harsh and hurtful.

Your extreme dislike of condoms combined with your in-the-moment fear of catching an STD make me wonder if opting for a massage and HJ release session might be a good choice for a while until you feel more comfortable and relaxed about letting go? Then perhaps you can move up to FS sessions again and experiment with different types of condoms to see if there's a brand that might work better for you.

These are just some suggestions. I'm sure others here will have some good advice as well.

Best of luck

I have had many instances when I cannot get off during intercourse and for the most part it is the condom. The combination of that, some positions and actual participation level of my partner makes all the difference. I try to judge if there is still smooth natural lube and if not a great finish with an oily handjob or bbbj will never delay the inevitable eruption. I always restrain from masturbation for a few days before any booked session.

G.A.

actually, if I were you, I would visit Jessica James. I never ever left her place unsatisfied, no matter how difficult a day I was having.

communication is sexy

its a lot more fun to see a client who lets you know you can anticipate things ending abruptly, happening only once, being an endurance test (the good kind) or requiring a certain stimulation (mental or physical) either before or during

a lot of the time I can pick up the more subtle aspects of what he needs or is experiencing, but sometimes that in itself can require a lot of focus and makes things less experiential and more temporal.. which is fine, but I prefer to enjoy sex where it would be a tough call to say whether it was the mind or the body in control

nickcan said:

I recently visited a SP that I won't name and after 40 minutes of sex, handjob and blowjob she told me that I must be a chronic masturbator because I can't get off. I was erect the entire time so it's not erectile dysfunction.
I was upset at that remark and I hadn't masturbated and it was actually sex with another SP 11 days prior to seeing her.
For me it's nerves, condom usage that I hate and rarely used with past girlfriends/wife, stress from job and a bit of fear with catching a STI.

Any one else have this same problem?

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You are complaining about lasting 40 minutes? Nick, I have to spray my dick just to make sure I don't lose it in the first 5 minutes!!!!!!!!!:thumb:

I would kill to last 40 minutes all the time!!!

wow 40 mins. Jealous ;D

Really sounds mental, I know I need to be checked in if I want to feel really satisfied. Even then there's no way to mentally distract me long enough for 40mins hahaha damn.

I lasted 40 minutes, once

Third shot on goal in four hours. She turned to me and said "you had better come". Almost sounded like an 'or else' scenario. Funny, to me anyways.

jesuschrist said:

Yup same here, don't masturbate neither. She started to dry up around the 30 minute mark and when I hit something deep inside her, said it hurt. Went gentle and slow most of that time too, anyway she kept it lubed after that but then she got tired around 45 minutes and asked me when I was gonna finish.

Hard to find an SP that can really take it.

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Even on the low track i've found those who can suck, fuck or lick from 1 to 3 hours. If drug addicts can resist their cravings for a fix that long, i'd think normal straight girls should have little difficulty doing that or better.

Arrrg said:

wow 40 mins. Jealous ;D

Really sounds mental, I know I need to be checked in if I want to feel really satisfied. Even then there's no way to mentally distract me long enough for 40mins hahaha damn.

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40 minutes!...I know I could last 40 minutes but I don't because I start feeling guilty that I'm causing pain or discomfort for the lady.....and guilt ruins a good orgasm. 40 minutes continuous is a lot of stress on a woman's parts! Also, physical fatigue will set in, and for me to last 40 minutes I'd really have to slow down....and it may start feeling monotanous, making it more difficult to immerse myself. Finally, if I went 40 minutes, it would ruin my plans of 2-4 SOG in 1.5-3 hour sessions...(which for me to be satisfied in a session is what I require). I love the feeling when I leave knowing that the woman I've seen has released all my pent-up sexual tension (which ramps up the moment she opens the door).

It is most certainly in your mind....maybe after a shorter period of fs...you should let her lube you up and use her oral/manual skills to finish you....and fast is not always best.....If I'm feeling guilty about how long I'm taking with manual/oral, I'd prefer she slows down, then I don't need to worry that she's going to tire. I think the fact that you need 40 minutes of fs to finish means it might be an idea to mix things up a bit and really have her try different oral/manual techniques...maybe slower longer strokes. It can't hurt to try. I just can't imagine too many sp's would enjoy 40 minutes of continuous thrusting.....maybe some...but probably not most.

I was with a great sp recently, and after 3 times in about 90 minutes (I opted to buy an extra hour because the chemistry seemed pretty good....extending my 2 hrs to 3), she mentioned that she was starting to get a bit sore and joked that she might not be able to walk the next day.....and that was probably from only about 30 minutes total full service (if you combine all the SOG's) and she asked if she could finish me with oral/manual for the fourth time..I happily obliged as there is no way I would enjoy myself knowing she was already sore...and boy did she deliver! I was so spent that I was very content to just lie there and chat with her for the remaining 45 minutes of the 3 hours.

HunkaHunkaBurninLuv said:

I can't do anything for 40 minutes ound:

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Well....I'm pretty sure I'm a fair bit younger than you...and for what it's worth....I first engaged in this "activity" about a year ago....and prior to that my sex life was so dry that I could barely last 3 minutes. I've seen one escort here so many times that I'm now able to last as long as I want.....and as soon as I start feeling that she might be getting tired I let my "inhibition" go. I think it's also a matter of comfort.....if you're comfortable that she's comfortable, things will work better.

I get upset if i don't last a minimum of 40 minutes. sorry to hear she wasn't happy about your session. more thank likely just miscommunication.

JessicaJames said:

Its not a big deal if it takes forever to release. Its not always about cumming its about the build up. I find tease and denial sessions are super hot and the focus is being in the moment and building arousal until you have no other choice but HIT THE CEILING!

Dont be hard on yourself there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! Actually its going to make your next session so much hotter becasue you can share this tid bit of info before your session and the escort will be thrilled to help you complete your mission.

Have a great day
Jessica James

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It takes me forever to release and as I get older it seems to be getting worse. Either that or sometimes I can cum 4 times or more in a hour. I just won't go soft and the next one is better then the last making me want to continue.

The build up is amazing and I love it! It can be hard sometimes to find the right girls. Some girls however love it. Girls that can only last 10 mins are the ones I never ever see again. Those that can do a 3 hour marathon I end up seeing for years. There is one girl I have been seeing for almost 10 years now.

SexyBoy said:

It takes me forever to release and as I get older it seems to be getting worse.

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From what i've been reading, this is to be expected as one ages.

http://healthguide.howstuffworks.com/aging-and-sex-dictionary1.htm

SexyBoy said:

The build up is amazing and I love it! It can be hard sometimes to find the right girls. Some girls however love it. Girls that can only last 10 mins are the ones I never ever see again. Those that can do a 3 hour marathon I end up seeing for years. There is one girl I have been seeing for almost 10 years now.

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My experience is much the same.

and maybe a few hours

yes, it must have been tough on that gal trying so longwhen likely most guys are off in a matter of seconds. But nowand then I have had the experience of taking a few hours. Just one of those days when things weren't working, and had a gal who wasn't going to let me go without a good finish. One gal workiedfor three hours on and off of course, and it was worth every penny. Haven't had to do that now that a few things got fixed, but a great memory. Glad some of these gals are devoted to the work. and have pride.

Ingrid said:

That's why I'm called a sexkitten *purrr*

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Dammit I need an excuse to go to Vancouver now!!!

Sadly my sister offered that I spend Xmas with her there instead of heading back to the east coast.

I'm an IDIOT!!

I'm batting .222 when it comes to finishing with an SP. I've only repeated with one so I'm thinking it may be my level of comfort with someone new or a mental block. Sometimes I've even went as long as 1.5 hours.

Everyone is different which makes sex so cool. I'm in no hurry if i think my partner is enjoying the interaction. Some of the best sex I've had did not even involved me orgasming just because it felt so good to see my partner have a great time. It's just good karma.

Kind of like sending flowers to someone at their work who totally isn't expecting it. Cost you a $100 and you get nothing out of it other than the feel good factor when they call you upon them arriving....Priceless.

Anyways if your SP was frustrated with you don't go see her again, she shouldn't be giving you a hard time. There are some wise words on here from some of the ladies. Take note!