GF slept with another chick....

Lancaster · Jun 1, 2011

As the title states... my gf just told me that just prior to dating me, she and her girl friend got really drunk and had sex.
I mean, I've always thought it would be so cool. I know her friend too, and hell, I would bang her in a heartbeat if given the opportunity too. My favourite porn are usually lesbian videos, so having my gf going at it with another hot chick.... sounded great. Unfortunately, my reaction was like.... :eyebrows: -> :high5: ->

->

-> :fear:

She told me it was just exploratory and not any lifestyle change... but for some reason I feel very uncomfortable. I'm not really sure what I'm feeling, except it's like jealousy... much like those highschool/first relationship type jealousy where you're mad/sad with the feeling of helplessness.

Be careful of what you wish for, huh? Any advice/opinions?:doh:

Puddlegurl · Jun 1, 2011

Heehee, I can relate , I won't go into detail but sometimes I think the jealously is more about that she is so comfy with herself sexually men can find that slightly unsettling that their woman is so brave and it opens the door to her wanting to explore more. And if you're not included that can be slightly intimdating, sexually secure woman can scare the hell out of some men Just sayin... It doesn't bother you that she's had past sexual relationships with men I'm sure. So its definatly not about the act. IMO

badbadboy · Jun 1, 2011

Sounds like a new chapter for you, GF and her GF

Roll with it.

emilioa4 · Jun 1, 2011

yeah man just go with it. sounds like you almost have the perfect girlfriend. wish mine was open to that sorta thing. especially if you say you would bang her friend as well. perfect opportunity. wanna trade???

Puddlegurl · Jun 1, 2011

Lol, charmers.. play it cool, the cooler you seem about it the more she'll tell you and the more likely you'll be in the middle of a boobie sandwich, if you push it or seem too much into the other girl her spidey senses will go up and you'll be left with your hand while they fall back into bed.. just sayin

george.caruthers · Jun 1, 2011

I don't think these posters are getting it. You are feeling threatened by something you can't compete with. You aren't looking to get in on the action, you want to understand your fear. Talk to her about it.

sweetiepie1 · Jun 1, 2011

HunkaHunkaBurninLuv said:
We get it g.c it isn't that complicated.

Which means you don't. If you're jealous and it bothers you, you need to acknowledge that to yourself and talk it out with her, especially if it bothers you to think it might happen again.

Pirate Code · Jun 1, 2011

Rancid Crabtree said:
what the fuck is the problem? You weren't dating, she didn't cheat. She told you and was open and honest, she didn't lie or conceal. She was drunk to boot. She told you it wasn't a lifestyle, it was an experiment. Have you never experimented? Have you told her you post and explore the world of prostitution and been equally honest and candid? You need to grow up and realize this isn't a big deal. If it really is that big a deal, then she's the one with the problem, namely a close minded, jealous half-wit of a boyfriend without the mental faculties to deal with a pretty harmless situation. Jesus, if only my love life was this "difficult".

Re-reading this, yes it's strong, sorry to offend, but I would kill to trade this situation for the one I got. You are lucky Lancaster, she's a keeper, don't let your head get in the way. Or introduce me to her if you can't make it work.

HunkaHunkaBurninLuv said:
Ding Ding Ding.....Winnaaaaaaaa!!!! Granted a little strong

Not too strong at all! Some people need to be whooped upside the head to knock some sense into them.

The great thing about the Internet is being able to not hold back when the truth might hurt. He asked for opinions so he opened himself up to the responses, be they kind or raw. I think it's great to be given a good scolding when you're off track. You can then slap your forehead with the heel of your hand and say: "Holy Shit. What the fuck was I thinking?"
Then laugh about it and move on with a better attitude.

InnocentBoy · Jun 1, 2011

This is why girls rarely tell the truth because guys can't handle it.

Tugela · Jun 1, 2011

Lancaster said:
As the title states... my gf just told me that just prior to dating me, she and her girl friend got really drunk and had sex.
I mean, I've always thought it would be so cool. I know her friend too, and hell, I would bang her in a heartbeat if given the opportunity too. My favourite porn are usually lesbian videos, so having my gf going at it with another hot chick.... sounded great. Unfortunately, my reaction was like.... :eyebrows: -> :high5: -> -> -> -> :fear:

She told me it was just exploratory and not any lifestyle change... but for some reason I feel very uncomfortable. I'm not really sure what I'm feeling, except it's like jealousy... much like those highschool/first relationship type jealousy where you're mad/sad with the feeling of helplessness.

Be careful of what you wish for, huh? Any advice/opinions?:doh:

If she told you that prior to dating you, she and her boyfriend got really drunk and had sex, would you still have been as uncomfortable?

You should think about that, your answer will probably say something about yourself if you reflect on it.

It isn't an issue unless you make it one. What she did in her relationships before meeting you is not really any of your business anyway, especially if you care about her.

aznboi9 · Jun 1, 2011

Fuck, Lancaster, things could be much worse: she could not like doing doggy.

the old maxx50 · Jun 1, 2011

what is the problem I don't get it.
She had some kind of sex with a girl friend before dating you

she probably had sex with with a boy friend before dating you also

Now the Girl on Girl sex bothers you more ..

It sounds like she does want to do it again or will do it again .. So what!

I know some real stuped guy that got a divorce over that Alex Baldwin divorced Kim Basinger for that reason . He realy had some issues about his masculinity

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