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Are the local pro-dommes the only one that know your KINK?

mistressfreyja

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I'm always curious as to how many lifestylers peruse this site, as opposed to the target audience.

Have you explored your KINK outside of pro-domme's play-spaces?

Do you attend community workshops, and events?
 

Aeiyah

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To break this thread's reply cherry:

My s.o. and I play with each other a little. But she's not comfortable with many of activities I like or trying anything too intense. She is fine with me playing with others.

I regularly attend private parties and workshops. I don't go to public events like Rascals, Sin and MVK. I haven't made it to one of LB's parties yet, but it's on my bucket list.
 

Purrr VertIcal

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There are a couple among the several fabulous pro-Dommes on here, I have met, whom I would consider a D/s and 'vanilla-ish' (meaning more lifestyle, like 'dating') relationship with.

But because I am lifestyle, I don't subscribe to the client-Pro relationship.
It loses it's depth of substance and meaning that it can have when it's for real, integral to your relationship.

Just visiting here, for example, it can be 'sorely' tempting to change that 'Principle', as no doubt these Pros are Most Fun to play with, under, and play-'serve'.

I've been involved with true, non-pro Dommes before.
There's nothing quite like it!
It doesn't matter so much to me whether they are pro,
but I'm not interested in being a mere 'client' or 'customer'.



 
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There are a couple among the several fabulous pro-Dommes on here, I have met, whom I would consider a D/s and 'vanilla-ish' (meaning more lifestyle, like 'dating') relationship with.

But because I am lifestyle, I don't subscribe to the client-Pro relationship.
It loses it's depth of substance and meaning that it can have when it's for real, integral to your relationship.

Just visiting here, for example, it can be 'sorely' tempting to change that 'Principle', as no doubt these Pros are Most Fun to play with, under, and play-'serve'.

I've been involved with true, non-pro Dommes before.
There's nothing quite like it!
It doesn't matter so much to me whether they are pro,
but I'm not interested in being a mere 'client' or 'customer'.



I don't disagree but it's not the only perspective.

For many, the THRILL of going to see a Pro Domme once...the not knowing, the excitement, could never be replaced with a comfortable relationship.

Not unlike the thrill of a one-night-stand, a fling with someone forbidden...to tell that stranger a secret that you know will be kept because they don't know you or anyone else in your vanilla world...

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

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I don't disagree but it's not the only perspective.

For many, the THRILL of going to see a Pro Domme once...the not knowing, the excitement, could never be replaced with a comfortable relationship.

Not unlike the thrill of a one-night-stand, a fling with someone forbidden...to tell that stranger a secret that you know will be kept because they don't know you or anyone else in your vanilla world...

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

xo
My best friend who I work with and we hang out alot as of late ( he's having major problems with his G/F ) has a friend who has seen a domme ( she's not of here and she retired now ).

Just the other night we were downtown and he was mentioning to me that this person he knows was reading about having a strong vibrating device up his ars while having a handjog was the most intense thing that could happen to a guy.
SO out of curiosity, he went to visit this Domme and had it done to him. I asked my buddy how this person he knew liked it and he said it was next to heaven. It was something that he never experienced before.

He ( my buddy ) knows I'm on perb and knows I see certain ladies, asked me if I experienced this sort of thing myself. I told him no, but it did enter my mind a few times.
 
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blazejowski

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I had a really bad experience with the local BDSM community - I was ostracized because I was never able to attend any of their events, and because I was married, and tend to hide my sexual deviancy from my wife....

I won't mention any names, but they host a semi-annual event that rhymes with Flack & Flue Fall....

Pricks...
 

Aeiyah

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It's just rhetorical question, but I'm curious as to why you are unable to share your kinks with your wife?
 
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blazejowski

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It's just rhetorical question, but I'm curious as to why you are unable to share your kinks with your wife?
Even though it's rhetorical, I will answer anyway... :D

My wife is extremely vanilla when it comes to sex - she won't try anything new, sex is limited to one position, and oral?

I'm sure you know the answer to that one... :D

Which is why I turned to SPs many years ago... they tend to scratch my itches quite nicely....;)
 
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blazejowski

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A few people know bits and pieces of my various kinks, but I don't think I've told one person in particular every single of them...
 

Aeiyah

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My wife knows most of my kinks and fetishes. I'm fortunate to have a group of like-minded friends who would not be surprised by any of my kinks and openly support and accept the kinks of others.
 

blazejowski

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My wife knows most of my kinks and fetishes. I'm fortunate to have a group of like-minded friends who would not be surprised by any of my kinks and openly support and accept the kinks of others.
I wish I had that kind of support... the only people I trust with my kinks are the ones that my relationship isn't so healthy with....
 

uncleg

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Even though it's rhetorical, I will answer anyway... :D

My wife is extremely vanilla when it comes to sex - she won't try anything new, sex is limited to one position, and oral?

I'm sure you know the answer to that one... :D

My SO was that way when I first met her, but you'd be surprised at what time and patience will produce. Last birthday she gave me a paddle with "Spank Me" on it, before that a single tail. For me to have her in cuffs and leg shackles while I do rude things to her, or give my flogger a workout is not unusual. Sometimes it's just how you approach it, a little bit at a time.
 

blazejowski

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My SO was that way when I first met her, but you'd be surprised at what time and patience will produce. Last birthday she gave me a paddle with "Spank Me" on it, before that a single tail. For me to have her in cuffs and leg shackles while I do rude things to her, or give my flogger a workout is not unusual. Sometimes it's just how you approach it, a little bit at a time.
Trust me, after 9 years I have given up trying... I've dropped hints, I've tried suggestions, watching porn, buying toys & lingerie, nothing works...
 
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